[QUOTE]Originally posted by racer chick

 

I'm glad I look like a raccoon from being out at the autox all day and missing spots on my face with sunscreen....

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by JerseyGirl

 

Yeah, pretty much whatever they want. I feel so manipulated, and used.

 

 

To the statement nice guys finish last not being true, it is. Currently I'm going through a "break" with my g/f slash used to be fiance' . I treated her like gold, and it seems like I was maybe too good to her. We were living together and it just got to a point where we were so comfortable that all we really did was hang out at home. She and I had great chemistry, and we both had similar plans in life, which were to get married and have children and start a business together.

But that all changed somehow and I have no idea how. I went from a druggy to a corporate employee with a great job, and got the S and my life was really taking off. She is still in college but feels that she is missing out I guess? I'm not sure what my point with all this is, but it sucks haha. She said she still wants to get married and have kids and all that shit but she isn't ready to be my g/f again just yet? Maybe the women here can enlighten me on this one.

I was pretty much the perfect guy for her and treated her so well. I can see how someone can get freaked out at somewhat a young age, but she was the one that was doing the pushing! So I don't know what to do, we are still seeing each other (dating), but I feel like shit. I feel like she gave up a life of happiness that we could have had for a life with her friends to go party. Wow, this got really long so I'll cut it short.

Girls are looking for the guy that can keep things mysterious. If you aren't doing that then they start to lose interest and you are sol.

 

How old are you? How old is she?

 

sirrach,

Totally unsolicited opinion here, but it sounds like maybe she just wanted to live it up some more while young. Partying is fun and there is only a certain time in life when your focus can revolve around social activities like that. You have the rest of your life to be responsible and family-oriented. Perhaps she just wasn't ready to start that phase of her life yet.

Only reason I think that is because I feel the same way right now. I'm a guy, but I'm in the party/druggy phase myself. I know I want to live it up while I can. You sound like you really like her, so hopefully you guys can work out in the long term. If you just date for a while, let her live out her young days, I'd say chances are good she'll come back to you in the future. Either you can give her some space, or she'll take her space on her own. Don't force her into anything. If she's still dating you, then she's definitely still interested. Good luck man...

 

I guess mystery is the key.

 

we are both 21...so yea we are young. I have been through several long relationships, and during those I knew I never wanted to marry these girls, but this one is the one for me for the rest of my life. I guess the issue is not me, but her. I am so far ahead of the game that I am where most people in their late twenties-thirties are now. I feel like I am a 30 year old Like I was saying, I guess I lost my mysterious quality I once had...I am no longer exciting.