I did my best. She used to joke around and say "if we ever broke up, let's stay fuk buddies"

I wish women would keep their word.

 

However, this girl does strike me as the "Too much is (was?) never enough" sort. . . often happens at that age.

Call her back if you need to, but calling her best friend would work too. . .

If you're not having fun, then don't do anything, and just get out there and live well.

 

good luck with that

 

A text message will work, but if she responds asking about the dream...dont send a full response back. Tell her that the dream was too detailed to explain in a text message. She will probably end up calling you at which time you can tell her that you might stop by later that evening. Clean up really well, so when you see her you can gets to fuking more easily.

 

this works for you, but will it give her any closure?

 

It depends...mutual closure sex can be a powerful tool if used properly. I've had it back fire before and gotten sucked back into an undesirable relationship, but for the mostpart it works well. In npham's case, it seems that he is the one who needs closure and actually really wants to get back with her. If he goes crawling back like a wounded soldier, she will get dryer than a sand box and NOT want to fuk. He needs to stay tough while still letting her know that he is thinking of her on a low level. Two things will happen...

1.) You will have closure sex with her and then go your seperate ways.
2.) You will have closure sex with her, "sort of" get back together, and continue to get laid for a few more weeks until both of you realize that you really don't like each other.

 

so what do i do when its been a year since the relationship of two years ended and im still dreaming about the guy, cant go a week without thinking of him? Im not thinking the sex thing will work. Even tho he was the ONLY one actually good at it

 

Unfortunately, rubyrashel - I doubt if that's even a consideration.

('What a pussy' flamesuit/on)

 

Well, closure sex is something that should happen near the end of a relationship OR when it has just ended. Dreaming about this guy could mean anything, dreams aren't necessarily a manifestation of what we really feel. I have dreams about having sex with different women (familiar, strangers, celebs) all of the time, so there is no real correlation there. Women tend to use comparisons when making decisions in life, for example..you might date someone new and those intangible feelings of love, desire, and lust might not be as strong for that person as they were with a "true love". Until you let go again with another guy, you will continue to harbor those feelings (towards that guy) that you had during that special relationship you were involved in. In your case, the sex will probably not be a good either until that connection is there, mental stimulation and emotional stability are 80% of what a women needs for good sex to occur.

 

I don't want to get back with her, I just want to get OVER her. Maybe closure sex is what I need, maybe not. Won't know until it happens.