My 2.5 yr relationship ended officially in June (though I knew in late march/april it would be over, was transatlantic so it was June as he flew over to end it in person) and it's been a bit of a wild ride since then.

Immediately after breaking up a friend of mine (who was going through a similar thing, though not nearly as long, but he fell hard) and I started to have feelings for each other, harmless crushes really.

For the next 4-odd months I viewed dating as a "sport" - went on dates on the regular with a few diff guys, settled into the city I moved to in late June and generally got on with my life.

By the time we broke up I was def. not IN love with him anymore, but obviously still cared for him/loved him as a person. I did the whole post-breakup stress out/fallout before we broke up, so in some ways I was 3 months "ahead" of the curve.

The douchebag since informed me that he's moving to Toronto (from Bristol, England) which was a complete slap in the face as he had previously refused to even consider moving within commuting distance to London (where I had secured a job).

Come 4-odd months later and very very randomly I met a great guy who is now my boyfriend and ended 2006 on a very high note.

My advice for you, having recently been there, done that - is appreciate what you had for what it was, don't sugarcoat anything or look down on the "good times" (take it for face value, I know, hard to do) and get abck in contact with your friends. Get out there, date people, don't go sleeping around (as I'm not a fan of that anyway) but enjoy your life.

Keep busy and take a break from contact with her, if there are post-breakup things that need to be settled ($$ and such) do so, but imho it's best to avoid each other for the "getting over" period completely. Gets messy (from what I've seen) if you don't.

It's not easy but I (for one) know that I'm in a much better place now - emotionally, physically, financially, mentally and socially.

Take it from me, you're way too young at 20 to put up with BS like that. Glad you got rid of her.

I'm over my ex, don't want to get back with him, refuse to speak with him and generally think he's a large bag of douche. It sucks to think that someone I dated seriously for so long is very different than what I thought/believed for a long time, but I've learned to not be so idealistic and look at things for what they are, not what I want them to be. You can't change people.

 

Dude, you're 20 and in college...umm, if memory serves, college is the best place to get unlimited pussy. Quit being a whiny bitch and go get laid.

 

^tough love.

 

Noted. It seems the "good times" are all I ever think of.

I plan to never talk to her again. I don't have a desire to, nor do I need to.

It was a lot of stupid BS day after day.

 

It's the best kind of love. Honesty is the best policy. I am being a little bitch and need to get over it.

 

clawhammer:

What you said made no point about a girl being easy, unless it was the girl that recently broke it off and is looking for a rebound. Or if the girl the rebound guy is looking for just happens to be bleach blonde idiots.




Me personally, first thing I look for in a man is intelligence, which unfortunately eliminates about 85% of them As far as winning his girl back, I dont think that is the issue. I think he could get back with her if he wants but the issue was about her constant nagging which I think could have been justified. If Im meeting someone at a club, which is usually packed, and the guy doesnt bother meeting me...and then acts like a dick/ie no apology...im out. Pure disrespect. BUT on the same note... they are young and no offense, you might not know about all that yet.
The whole girls dancing with you thing, I don't now I would have to see it to discuss it.
As far as your friends arguing with her, Bad on you again. You are supposed to be the one to protect her, what if they werent your friends and were strangers off the street. I bet you would say something then. Maybe not what you should say to your friends, but as someone else stated, mention it to you friends in a manner where your not saying they're wrong, but getting the point across.

I think i can put a 10 dollar bet that you will go back with her, that's life, and most of us are weak. I sure as hell am, and I have no idea how I didn't go back to my ex, but thats life. Shiit happens, You get ####ed in between, and then you die.

 

So does that mean it will turn you on more if I wear my glasses instead of contacts during sx, lol? Most people look fairly intellectual when they wear their glasses.

All joking aside, that is a pretty narrow description, that wont help this guy

 

I always speak out in classes and get the answers right. Does that make me look intelligent?

 

I take paypal.

 

What does gtfo mean?

C'mon, help a fellow S2K brother out! Judging by his sn, I think he's a Vietnamese brotha. Ruby, help out a Vietnamese brotha in need of your precious.

Npham, perhaps we can chip in to buy you a plane ticket to FL to be with Ruby for a while. Make it worth the money!