I seem to be having a problem when it comes to meeting new people and initiating conversations. I'm definitely not shy, I'm just afraid that I won't know what to say. I don't know what I may have in common with that person, so what can I talk to him/her about? IMO it's kind of stupid to say something like "Looks like we got another 3 inches of snow last night".

For example, let's say you're waiting in line at the register at the cafeteria, and there is some hot girl in front and/or behind me who I've never met, but would like to. I usually just end up doing nothing, because I don't know what to say.

What can I do to be more friendly and meet new people? How do I get over the fear of not knowing what to say?

 

when i want to talk to some hot girl waiting in line next to me i just look over at her and smile and "find" something to say.example:look at what she's wearing and make a simple but funny comment about her shoes.WoW those heels are high..how do you balance yourself on those(with a smile).something to break the ice is what i'm getting at.as long as she's not a stuck up BioTch she'll start talking to you.

hope this helps


peace

 

you have a confidence issue.

which can easily be overcome by positive visualization.

people are people.....everyone typically knows what the response to a question or statement will generally be.

you: "looks like we got another 3 inches of snow last night"
girl: "ya, it sucks eh?"

or

girl: "ya and it's still cold as hell"

or

girl: "ya, i'm going skiing this weekend, so i'm glad it did"

or whatever....

of course the flipside is they won't say anything (if they don't want/aren't interested)...which in turn won't help your confidence.

 

Or you can just simply say "Hi, how are you?"

 

You are psych-ing yourself out. If you care too much about the outcome of a conversation, you'll choke everytime. Act a little more like you don't care whether or not you are accepted. Ever heard the phrase - sing like no one is listening and dance like no one is watching? Well, make friends like you don't need 'em. It's amazing how much easier things are when you take the pressure off of yourself to perform.

 

small talk is just that. people always talk about the weather so don't do that as the other guy said above just talk about something she may have on and do it with a smile. you'll get a response

in my sales training i was always told to "make a friend" but don't do the usual small talk. at least throw some questions in that are personal but not too deep and "intruding"

 

I disagree with Plyrs 3, It's probably not something you can overcome easily. With some pratice you can become better but you'll never be totally at ease like someone born with it. I been involved with or have trained sales people for 15 years. You either have that personality or you don't. I had reps I worked with that could talk to a lamp post.

 

They probably have a lot of the same thoughts.

 

Chances are you'll never see that person again, so who cares what you say? It can't hurt to say something, just avoid obvious pick up lines.

 

If it's a hot girl you can compliment her, or if you really want her to be into you, insult her.