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"Come here often?"



I'm married so I'm not exactly volunteering conversation with single young women on a regular basis. However, for instance, I'm having massage therapy (which requires at least some of your clothes to come off) done by a woman. I just ask her questions that are somewhat funny and that keeps it lighthearted (and me comfortable as well). Humour is a good way to break the ice.

"Is it easier to massage fat or skinny people?"

"What do you do if a person has a really hairy back?"

"Can you draw a circle on my back right there, so that I can show my chiropractor exactly where it hurts the most?"

Interest without obvious carnal intentions is probably the key to initial conversational success. Be friendly but not obsequious/fawning/drooling. Weather is probably not a good conversation starter.

If you don't expect anything from the conversation, you'll probably do a lot better. It's random, it's not that important, and it's just talking. Not like she's going to see you again tomorrow if you make a fool of yourself.

I dislike chit chat and small talk about nothing but standing around bored in a line is a lot worse than conversing with strangers (hot or not).

 

I am hoorible at breaking the ice, but once that is done, no problem. I used to room with this guy that would have to beat chicks away with a stick. He was a good looking guy but it was technique.

Confidence is the main thing, and that can be faked. Easy. If you look uncomfortable, she will be uncomfortable. Very rarely does a girl find shyness cute.

If a girl is in front of you in line or at a bar key is make eye contact and do not look away like you are busted. The key is to look friendly and interested with out looking like Jeffrey Dahmer.

When she meets your glance, keep direct eye contact, smile, and just say "Hey hows it going?" If she want to go farther, she will create an opening to start a conversation farther than that. Don't look intimidated, don't sound intimidated. The hardest part is when you have the urge to look away like you have been busted checking her out, is too keep looking but not appear to be a seed.

Sometimes, the girl is not interested and will be short with you, don't push it, just bail and say "whatever'. Girls love the attention, most will give you an opening.

My roomate when told by a girl that she had a boyfriend would say "I don't care, I'd like to go out anyway. He just can't come along."

You'd be amazed how many of these dishonest young ladies took him up on it.

 

This is a perfect time for me for this kind of advice. Good thread clawhammer.

 

So licking your lips and drooling is out of the question?

 

if you're going to attempt to strike up a conversation with a girl make sure that she seems REMOTELY receptive. if you see a girl and she looks like she's in a hurry, or having a bad day... attempting to talk to her can backfire on you. but if you see a girl and she at least makes eye contact with you, (even better, smiles at you...) than i'd say you should be okay. if i'm having a bad day or don't feel well, i will avoid making any type of eye contact with anyone in public places because i'm not in the mood to talk and eye contact is how people initiate conversation.

also, i personally, am really receptive to humor. a lot of girls are that way... if you can joke about something, you're less likely to come off as some creep just trying to score some ass. oh yea, and DON'T ACT LIKE A CREEP. i know it should be a given, but some guys do it and they don't even know they're doing it. they'll stare at girls with this dazed smile and try to sneak looks at her chest. ewwwwwwwwww....

try to find something in common. if you see the girl at a coffee place on your break, she's probably doing the same thing you're doing. joke about how slow the baristas are, or the ridiculous lady with the long-winded order holding up the line... whatever's clever.

 

 

I just say: hey baby! Wanna shag?

 

Just picture everybody in the room in their underwear!

 

I would also like to add that after cracking the ice, be yourself. There is no bigger turn off for girls knowing that you've put on a different front if you happen to meet her again later on.