For those who didn't read the first thread, it can be found Here

Sorry to anyone who thinks this is a waste of forum space... just thought since the first thread had four pages of replies, I'd follow up with what ended up happening.

The two of us talked for days about whether or not she was going to move. At one point she actually told me to move my stuff back in, then ten minutes later said she needed to sleep on it, and changed her mind in the morning.

We sat down and decided to try working through our problems while living on our own, and try to get our individual lives straight at the same time. I helped her move last Tuesday, and things weren't so hard until I saw the new place she was leaving me for. Since Tuesday we've talked every day and seen each other a few times, but it was obvious that we were drifting apart. Last night I went over to her place for coffee and we tried keeping the subject matter light. I left and things seemed fine.

This morning she called me to let me know she couldn't deal with the relationship anymore, and that she wants to focus her energy on getting back the family and friends she's drifted from while we've been together. She says she still loves me as a person, but not as a boyfriend... that she's felt this way for a while, but has stuck around hoping she could get it back.

I guess that you guys all owe me an "I told you so" for me sticking around and having this happen.

It's just hard to accept that six weeks ago, she was bothering me to hurry up and propose... and now she's going to be out of my life entirely. I've never seen someone fall out of love so quickly. It's not just a breakup to me, but a complete change of direction for where I saw myself in five years. I thought we'd be married and living in a little house somewhere.

So that's the end of my story. Thanks again for everyone who helped the first time around. I should have probably trusted your advice.

 

Sorry to hear this man. i hope things work out for u. just have you fun and dont be alone, go out with friends and keep poeple around u and you will be fine. think about it this way. "she lost you" am i right?? if u need someone to talk to feel free to pm me. i went threw something similar 2 times so i know how to deal with it and how it feels. Just remeber, life is great, be patient.

 

Sry to hear this man, but youre young bro, find a new gal cause there are plenty of then out there.. usually when a girl seems indecisive that means there is someone else!

 

she has someone else waiting....just drop her and move on.




peace

 

Holy crap, that is pretty horrible. Im sorry to hear about your situation.

Although her words make sense, her semi-shady actions should be enough for you to move on. After a serious relationship like that, you cant believe that person is going to be gone and out of your life. Sometimes you cant accept it and youll hold onto the little bit of hope that theyll return.......

But because of her actions I hope you are wise enough to stay away. If she comes back , youre in for more hurt. ESPECIALLY if she had cheated on you before!

Anyways, hope you can stay strong and get through this.

 

Good point! But dont hold on thinking they will come back because thats "Baggage" and will screw up the chances when you meet someone thats really worth it, just let go of that deceptive cheater and move on, remember, there is always something better out there when the old doesnt work out.

 

women are weird man, you are better off w/out that one though.

Also, this:

She says she still loves me as a person, but not as a boyfriend...
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You arent fuking me anymore.

 

Thanks for listening guys. I talked to her for a while longer tonight... just wanted to see if I could some more closure on it all.

She basically said that right now she wants a chance to have fun and enjoy her life again after the past 18 months of struggling through everything... and that she's got a better chance of doing that with just her friends, and ultimately dating someone new, who doesn

 

[QUOTE=OCMusicJunkie,Mar 10 2007, 08:28 PM]

She said if we want, we can try talking and spending time together as friends for a couple of weeks. She won't date anyone else, we'll just be single together. If we

 

And chances are she is not 100% got the other guy strung in, thus why she said the no dating for 2 weeks deal, i bet you if anything if you date someone else shes gonna try and talk you out of it because she still wants you there as an option if the other dude doesnt work out - the more out of reach you are, the more she will want you