Don't over analyze things too much. If a girl doesn't love you, let her go. I mean, really let go. It won't hurt so much after a while. Now, whether or not you decide to keep in touch with her or just be friends, make sure you do it in your own terms, not hers. She wants to enjoy her life but you should too. Good luck man.

 

I would tell her to get out of your life, no friends no nothing. if she wants u she iether gets you completly or she doesnt. she cant have the best of both worlds and u shouldnt let her. woman tend to want to do that shit. and u know what u should do? let her pack her shit or u get your shit and leave and dont talk to her agian. let her really feel like she lost u then. and after a couple of weeks or a month or so while she is realizing how much she ****ed up you will be getting on with your life and moving on to bigger and better things. everyone deserves someone to love them back regarldess of what mistakes they make or have made in thier past. and that goes for u 2. u sound like a cool guy. foget about it like it never happened. what goes around comes back around. trust me. in the end u will be happy and that should be all thats matters shouldnt it? i mean u need to look out for #1. and im sorry to say this, woman these days tend to want to run around and hop from boyfriend to boyfriend like its a game. and while were sitting there watching them do this. Guys are being called the jerks and ass-holes. and they wonder why the divorce rates are so high, it because woman dont stick with there men. its not for better or for worse it for better or **** you. f-that woman are evil. if u don find the right one, u will be ****ed in the long run. so will it hurt, yeah probably. is it gonna kill yeah. no...if anything it will make u a stronger person and it will show u more of what type of person u want to be with for the rest of your life. someone that "WILL" love you for better or for worse. just picture yourself with this girl 2-3 years down the road or whatever with a kid on her hip and she's telling you" i just dont want the baggage of our relationships past or what not" thats when u truly will hurt. so take my adice and move on. start a new life and stay away from woman for a while and just hang out with the guys. play with you car do whatever it takes to get your mind off of her. and that doesnt mean going and listeting to some rascall flatts or nothing iether. lol. just take it easy man. things will be okay. Promise
take care

 

[QUOTE=OCMusicJunkie,Mar 10 2007, 08:28 PM] Thanks for listening guys. I talked to her for a while longer tonight... just wanted to see if I could some more closure on it all.

She basically said that right now she wants a chance to have fun and enjoy her life again after the past 18 months of struggling through everything... and that she's got a better chance of doing that with just her friends, and ultimately dating someone new, who doesn

 

[QUOTE=OCMusicJunkie,Mar 10 2007, 08:28 PM]
She said if we want, we can try talking and spending time together as friends for a couple of weeks. She won't date anyone else, we'll just be single together. If we

 

Dr. Phil is that you hiding behind that screen name.

 

 

women never tell you exactly what they mean or what they are thinking. They always phrase things differently and use alot of body language to convey their feelings. I don't even have to ask my wife is she is in a mood anymore, I simply try to do something to try to cheer her up OR if that doesnt work I ignore her until she starts acting normal again.

 

[QUOTE=gotrice02,Mar 11 2007, 10:24 AM] women never tell you exactly what they mean or what they are thinking.

 

feel better, OC

one of the greatest conundrums of human life is when we want someone who doesn't want us. logically, you look at it and it just doesn't make sense as a match, but it's never that simple. try to take a step back and see that there is no good ending for you in this matter. and if you really are a cool dude, then she is one losing in the end.

 

Sorry to hear this is happening to you but maybe you should just give her some space.

If she's lost family and friends due to your relationship then your relationship was doomed from the start.

Being in a relationship should be a positive thing for both people in the relationship not a negative one.