Well, my life came crumbling down today
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Originally Posted by OCMusicJunkie,Jun 12 2007, 08:03 AM
While both of us are back on much better terms, I don't see a very clear future. The relationship really isn't the top concern at the moment, and I'm going to really take into account what has been said here before making any choices.
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I know what your going through. I dealt with pretty much the same thing with my GF I dated through out most of college. We were on and off for 3 years. She never cheated on me, because well I won't/don't tolerate it, but other than that we had the connection but the relationship sucked.
Eventually you have to decide if you want to deal with this constant drama for the rest of your life, or if you want to move on and try to find a "normal" relationship. It's funny, my S2000 was actually the final straw that made me "see the light". We were on a break for about 2 weeks, we were together but taking some time apart. She went to the Bahamas with her friends for a week, and during that same week I ended up buying the S. She came back, called me, and I told her about my purchase. Keep in mind that we didn't live together and weren't engaged. She didn't even congratulate me, all she was worried about was how much it cost, whats your monthly payment, how much is insurance, etc. This was the final straw.
I ended things with her and about 6 months later, after dating a number of girls, I reconnected with a girl I dated briefly during one of the "breaks" me and my ex were on. I've been with this girl now for almost 10 months and have never been happier. I know that love is a tough thing, but I can assure you that there is probably someone out there who is WAY better suited for you. After you settle your business with her you need to run, not walk, away from this girl. You may not see it now, but this will be for the best.
Eventually you have to decide if you want to deal with this constant drama for the rest of your life, or if you want to move on and try to find a "normal" relationship. It's funny, my S2000 was actually the final straw that made me "see the light". We were on a break for about 2 weeks, we were together but taking some time apart. She went to the Bahamas with her friends for a week, and during that same week I ended up buying the S. She came back, called me, and I told her about my purchase. Keep in mind that we didn't live together and weren't engaged. She didn't even congratulate me, all she was worried about was how much it cost, whats your monthly payment, how much is insurance, etc. This was the final straw.
I ended things with her and about 6 months later, after dating a number of girls, I reconnected with a girl I dated briefly during one of the "breaks" me and my ex were on. I've been with this girl now for almost 10 months and have never been happier. I know that love is a tough thing, but I can assure you that there is probably someone out there who is WAY better suited for you. After you settle your business with her you need to run, not walk, away from this girl. You may not see it now, but this will be for the best.
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This should be an object lesson to all men: NEVER LET YOUR SPERM OUT OF YOUR SIGHT.
It doens't matter what the bitch tells you. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM. A quick trip to the Walgreens can save you a lifetime of trouble.
It doens't matter what the bitch tells you. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM. A quick trip to the Walgreens can save you a lifetime of trouble.
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why waste so much time and effort trying to patch things up, although fights do tend to draw s.o. closer, the things you are fighting over are quite big. this girl is going to give you headaches for here forth, run man!
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Mr. Experience at your service......
1) I will bet she was never pregnant.
2) If she really was, the chances are not 1% that it was not yours. More like 50% to 75%.
3) She is Passive-Aggressive and is manipulating you. This is abuse. When a man does it to a woman it is a crime. When a woman does it to a man it is just an emotional episode (that lasts her entire life!)
4) Run now, run fast and run swiftly away from this person. I will bet my next paycheck (I do make good money) that if you broke it off, and actually tried to stay away from her, that things would get better and better, right up to the time that she realizes that you are not going to go back to her. Then, all hell breaks loose.
5) Evaluate yourself before you date anyone else, and find out if you are just a nice guy that attracts the predatory females, or you are someone that seeks them out without realizing it. Take a good hard look, and then don't worry about dating, family, women, or anything. Just make friends.
6) Do not ever have sex with this woman again, nor with any of her friends. Very important!!!!!
Just my two cents and years of experience dealing with just such a person.
1) I will bet she was never pregnant.
2) If she really was, the chances are not 1% that it was not yours. More like 50% to 75%.
3) She is Passive-Aggressive and is manipulating you. This is abuse. When a man does it to a woman it is a crime. When a woman does it to a man it is just an emotional episode (that lasts her entire life!)
4) Run now, run fast and run swiftly away from this person. I will bet my next paycheck (I do make good money) that if you broke it off, and actually tried to stay away from her, that things would get better and better, right up to the time that she realizes that you are not going to go back to her. Then, all hell breaks loose.
5) Evaluate yourself before you date anyone else, and find out if you are just a nice guy that attracts the predatory females, or you are someone that seeks them out without realizing it. Take a good hard look, and then don't worry about dating, family, women, or anything. Just make friends.
6) Do not ever have sex with this woman again, nor with any of her friends. Very important!!!!!
Just my two cents and years of experience dealing with just such a person.