What do you do when your significant other...
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Originally Posted by Scot,Dec 6 2004, 06:24 AM
The old dirt road. The back nine. The Hershey Highway.Now that i have all these ideas in my head, could you please tell us what the big decision is. At least tell me if this S.O. is a girl or dude.
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Originally Posted by JerseyGirl,Dec 5 2004, 03:14 PM
Think of things that are "big" in terms of either money or how they may alter life as you know it. For instance, your significant other wants something (car, new house, pet, baby, etc.) and you feel very strongly against whatever it is. Keep in mind that whatever this "thing" is that's wanted, it's very important to your S.O.
Do you:
a) stick to your guns and insist it's a no-go
b) give in - after all, it is important to your S.O.
c) somehow find a compromise (if one exists)
Discuss!
Do you:
a) stick to your guns and insist it's a no-go
b) give in - after all, it is important to your S.O.
c) somehow find a compromise (if one exists)
Discuss!
Things like pets and kids (life style changes) are a bit more cut and dry - either you have kids or you don't. So whatever conditions you got married under (no ids, no kids until 30, whatever), stick to it... unless you've both changed.
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Originally Posted by Gink5,Dec 6 2004, 10:10 AM
Now that i have all these ideas in my head, could you please tell us what the big decision is. At least tell me if this S.O. is a girl or dude.
Cindy, there wouldn't even be a discussion if the topic was "getting rid of the S". He knows better than to bring that up.
The situation was/is that I want another cat (we have one) and SO's dead-set against it. Personally, I don't see what the big deal is, as it's not like going from having 1 cat to 10 of them. I would assume it's obvious how much this means to me, as I've had pets pretty much all my life & he knows how much I adore the one we have now. By the way, he really does like the one we have now & Spanky (the cat) is very well behaved. The opportunity came up to rescue a cat that was at a shelter and his response was no way, no how, no, no, no.
Personally, I can't imagine anything I'd tell him "no" for - well, ok, one thing. I am not popping out any kids in the near future. But again, I never said "no" to that - just "no" to doing it now.
So in a situation like this, where it's pretty much one way or another, how would you handle it?
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Originally Posted by WestSideBilly,Dec 6 2004, 05:51 PM
Why is he so dead set against the cat? Is it because it's a shelter mutt?
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Originally Posted by JerseyGirl,Dec 6 2004, 05:07 PM
The situation was/is that I want another cat (we have one) and SO's dead-set against it.
Do you know if he REALLY likes Spanky?
Pets are almost like kids, so you both have to agree on this one...
Meow!