Yep. I was talking to her friend first. She sent me a pic of herself in a hot tub - very cute. But she lived in St. Louis.

Then I started talking to the other girl, who lived only 40 minutes from me. We talked online first, then on the phone every night for a week, then met for our first date.

That was in 1997

 

[QUOTE=no_really,Sep 22 2005, 06:11 PM] BS.

 

My sister's in a similar situation. I keep telling her to do things she normally wouldn't do and go places she normally wouldn't go....like to auto-x events, sporting events, start volunteering, etc.

Consider joining a co-ed recreational sports team. I was on a co-ed adult kickball team and that was so much fun. In addition, I met a lot of people who I wouldn't have met otherwise. There were the games, the after-game hang out sessions at a local bar, and some parties (mid-season, end-of-season, etc.). That's one way to get out there & meet people.

 

Just live your life and believe that you will meet right person in time. I personally don't think it's something you can get by "trying" or coming up with elaborate "plan" or "strategy"...just my humble opinion.

Of course, I'm assuming you are not the type who brags about who "you banged the other night" to your buddies the next day .

 

That's classic! I've never heard/seen someone actually put that into words before but a lot of guys suspect this!! It's like a guy secret or something.

Find something you really have a passion for ...biking, art, swimming...etc and get involved in activities surrounding that.

I met my wife at school (sorry...) but many friends of ours met through activities and events.

 

you think MENSA would have some pretty, smart single girls? I guess the statistical mix of attractive smart girls is the same as attractive dumb girls, as both traits are normally distributed. I just wonder if the smart, pretty ones would actually go to a MENSA meeting.

Right now, I'm in a funk...actually for 3 years. I have kidney failure and spend a large chunk of time not working in dialysis. Many of the people there like to go as it is their social hub...but I'm 30, not 70! There's no pretty doctors, and all the nurses I'd like to get with are married. Also, I feel like girls are not going to want a "defective" guy so that has hurt my confidence.

To the girls: Am I right in this. If you met 2 guys who were ALMOST equal in your minds, but one that is slightly more attractive (overall) was sick would you date him? My honest answer relating to a woman is "no" as I don't want the hassle. Do women feel the same way?

 

Is it possible that you're just going to the wrong type of bars/clubs? I've been to a lot of places where the general attitude was "Let's get drunk and hook up" but I've also been to very laid back places where you can talk and most people aren't stupid-drunk.

I agree with your assessment though; the ones who religiously attend the former tend to be undateable.

 

Attractive smart girls (or guys for that matter) are not normally distributed.

IMO, your self-consciousness about your kidney problems probably hurts you more than the perception of being defective. If your attitude and personality are positive and pleasant, most people will not care that you have to spend a couple hours a day in dialysis. However, if you sulk and constantly fret that people don't like you because of it, they generally won't like you...

Good luck with your kidneys, regardless.

 

[QUOTE=LittleRedS2k,Sep 22 2005, 09:38 PM] As for online dating... from a woman's perspective (and corroborated from girlfriends all over the country) online dating is a wasteland.

 

I think lots of times we are our own worst enemy.
If the spark is there, being sick may be something to adjust to in a relationship, not something to prevent the relationship from happening. I suppose it partly depends on the woman too.