.....for not wanting kids? I've had the discussion about it with my girl before but don't think I'm cut out for it. I'm not saying she thinks I'm a bad person for not wanting them but I'm just being curious. I just don't think I want the commitment and responsibility of raising one. It's gonna have to come up again as a topic of discussion with her and could be a make or break point in our four year relationship. I do love her, but if she wants one, and I don't............?

Thanx,
Chris

 

It's a personal choice and one that should be agreed on before making any kind of comitment in your relationship. How old are you? Do you think you will change you mind later in life?

 

Yeah I guess it should've came up a little more towards the beginning of our relationship. I'm 25 years old. I really can't say whether or not I might change my mind later on in my life. I can say though that I'm 95% sure I will not want one. But I don't want to leave any kind of window open for her to think I MIGHT want one and then when she's ready I don't want it. So not fair to her. The topic has come up, but I don't think we want to face the inevitable...........

Chris

 

I am 45 and have 3 children. All daughters 23, 21, and 19. If you would have asked me 15 years ago I would emphatically told you that they bring much pleasure and contentment to your life. Another way of saying I don't really know. Now I would say they are highly overated. Having a stepson now also, I can assure you that they are about as welcome as a bad hangover. If you decide to have children or one or two come about, make sure and sell them when they are small. The smaller and younger they are, the more they are worth.

Do not let anybody talk you into having children or getting married. Why do we have to do this? Who made the rule? If you ask your parents one day why they didn't advise you to not have children or get married, they will respond....PAYBACK!

 

So in other words, it shouldn't be looked down upon and it's not a "wrong" decision or a bad one for that matter. Thanx for your opinion. More opinions please people.

Thanx,
Chris

 

Chris, no u r not a bad person.. I certainly dont and i also have a friend also does not. she even taken steps to ensure this, which i must say i think is a very brave move for a female. I think its an increasing option that many people, couples or singles are taking up. life gives many options, as some doors close, others open.

N.

 

Very brave for a female to do that. Thanx for your opinion

Chris

 

You would be more of a bad person if you had kids, knowing that you don't want them and you aren't cut out for the job.

 

Yeah I thought about, and took that angle too. I agree

Chris

 

nope your not a bad person. I hate kids. BUT i do have an infant (the best accident ive ever had) It is completely different when they are your own. I cant stand everyone else's but hes my little man.