I think it's ok to not want kids. I'm the same age and just married a 22 year-old. My wife wants kids now, but before we got married, I sat her down and told her that I wanted at least 3 years of enjoying each other before bringing around anyone else, so if she didn't like it, she has the option of using the door, and she decided not to. Now, if we could only get her parents and siblings to stop harassing us...

The piece of advice I can give is to do what you want- don't make anyone force you into something you don't want. You might regret it for the next 18 years, and that's a long time to me...

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Patdeisa
I think it's ok to not want kids.

 

News flash! It's not 18 years. It's the rest of your life and then whatever you had to squirrel away so that they have a head start in life. That's if anything is left after clothes, cars and an education. Not to mention the occasional financial disaster. Skip the kids, act like you have kids and put that money in a no load equity mutual fund for 20 years and you will smile all the way to the bank. We're talking about a minimum of $500,000/ child here! Let your brothers and sisters have the kids. You get to play with them, spoil them and then take them home when they are tired, sick or just getting on your nerves. Everytime you have the urge, get a puppy. At least a puppy gives you unconditional love. Don't get me wrong. I love my kids and would take a bullet for them but.............if you have a choice, listen and learn. I tell my kids the same thing. None of them has children and the oldest is married because she likes to learn things the hard way. I shared this post with my girlfriend who's son just rolled and totaled the pickup she agreed to go buy and get paid back for (won't see a dime of the $7500.00) and she said to make an appointment today for a vasectomy.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by jrfblueeyes
News flash!

 

Not A bad person at all. I don't want kids either. They are annoying, loud, obnoxious, they cost too much, have a slimy feel to them, smell funny, and are constantly making a mess. My brother has 1, that is enough to keep my family genes going so why should I do it too? Besides, if you have an s2000 and take a trip with the significant other the only place for the kid is in the trunk..........and the authorities frown upon that. Having the kid in the trunk would also cut down on luggage space too much.

 

get ur nuts clipped then tell her you cant have any.....problem solved ................ or dont tell her keep trying then one day she is like :honey my period didn't come:

then u tell her what you did......

 

I'd say it's a good person who knows they don't want kids and doesn't have them. It's a bad person who knows they don't want them, and still has them, and still doesn't want them. It wrecks the kids' beginning and your life too.

I didn't want kids until I changed my mind at about 27 years-old. I had a girl when I was 29 and a boy when I was 30. They are now 16+ and 15. I'm very happy I have them and love them immensly. My view is don't have them if you don't want them. If you do want them, please raise them. At the risk of offending someone, I really feel sorry for the kids who are raised in day-care and after-school care. Kids need a mom or dad to be around. In general, they do better in school and get into less trouble.

 

amen to that! have them if you want them, don't have them if you don't want them...but for god's sake dont depend on someone else to raise them. i am lucky enough to get to stay at home with our 21 month old son and i would not have it any other way.......

 

"these women are like "you don't need no man to help you raise no child." they need to shut the Fvck up with the bull$hit! Yeah, you could do with without a man, but that don't mean it's to be done. shit, you could drive a car with your feet if you want to, that don't make it a good fvcking idea.... There ain't nothin' you can say tha's more powerful than 'i'm gonna tell your daddy.' you could have a gun at the kid's head and tell him you're "I'm gonna blow your Fvcking head off!' 'So what?' 'I'm a tell ya daddy!' 'oh, okay, okay'......now, go raise them kids before the rob me in 10 years."

-Chris Rock.

All of the above are the result of parents who have kids when they're not ready, or don't actively want them. that's much, much worse than making the highly intelligent and responsible choice to avoid having children that you don't want. I applaud your decision, and it does quite the opposite of making you a bad person; it demonstrates a lot of maturity, responsibility, and consciousness on your part, and it is a nice thing to see in today's society of rampant irresponsibility. The worst thing you could do to a child is bring it into a world that's not ready to care for it properly.

*props*

Quick2K

 

So you are 25 years old. When I was 25 years old I wanted a child about 0% or maybe even negative. Now I'm 30. I am pretty ready to have a kid. It's really scary. I am still a kid.