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Originally Posted by vtec9,Apr 9 2007, 02:25 PM
I have been in a similar situation. A friend of mine organized an outing for his brothers birthday.. 9 or 10 of us went to a nice club, reserved a table and ordered several bottles. The tab at the end of the night was around $1200. It turned out that three of the people ended up footing a majority of the bill with some people putting in no money (I have everything I had, around $100 
). These three were a bit upset and politely asked everyone to contribute a fair share the next day since everyone had partaken evenly in the festivities. No one had a problem with and everyone gladly forked over the funds. This is what friends do. Your friends should give you money for drinks. I could understand not contributing to the limo or even dinner, but not for the drinks.
). These three were a bit upset and politely asked everyone to contribute a fair share the next day since everyone had partaken evenly in the festivities. No one had a problem with and everyone gladly forked over the funds. This is what friends do. Your friends should give you money for drinks. I could understand not contributing to the limo or even dinner, but not for the drinks.These guys aren't strangers...I'm not going to beg them for the money, thats not the type of guy I am. If they choose to be scumbags, I won't be doing any more favors or hanging out with them again. I am all about principal, it is hard for me to be around people I dont respect.
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Originally Posted by gotrice02,Apr 9 2007, 02:31 PM
i agree
These guys aren't strangers...I'm not going to beg them for the money, thats not the type of guy I am. If they choose to be scumbags, I won't be doing any more favors or hanging out with them again. I am all about principal, it is hard for me to be around people I dont respect.
These guys aren't strangers...I'm not going to beg them for the money, thats not the type of guy I am. If they choose to be scumbags, I won't be doing any more favors or hanging out with them again. I am all about principal, it is hard for me to be around people I dont respect.
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Originally Posted by CalBear,Apr 9 2007, 02:51 PM
I hear ya man. In every group, there's gonna be at least one guy who says "hey, I ordered so and so and it's only $24" instead of the $26 dish that everyone else had ordered and he "wasn't gonna tip more than his proportionate share".
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Originally Posted by Penforhire,Apr 9 2007, 03:10 PM
I know who my "cheap" friends are so I make sure I run the calculation for them, don't invite them, or get separate checks -- learning from past experiences just like yours...
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Originally Posted by Penforhire,Apr 9 2007, 12:10 PM
I know who my "cheap" friends are so I make sure I run the calculation for them, don't invite them, or get separate checks -- learning from past experiences just like yours...
Chalk it up to an eye-opening (and wallet-opening) lesson.
I've got a friend who is the mother of all cheap-asses. Wouldn't bother me, except he's a control freak as well.
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I agree with the rest of the generous monkeys. It completely lacks class to go out to a nice place and then leave other people hanging with the bill.
Most of the people I hang with are good enough about it that we usually end up with enough for the tip without any problems. There is that one meathead who always puts in exactly how much his meal cost and no tip, but he isn't invited anymore.
Most of the people I hang with are good enough about it that we usually end up with enough for the tip without any problems. There is that one meathead who always puts in exactly how much his meal cost and no tip, but he isn't invited anymore.
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i dunno how old u are, but opening up a tab to ur friends is a rookie mistake. too many things can go wrong.
ur friends cant keep track of how many drinks each had.
one friend may feel shafted if they only had 1 drink and another had 10.
if u told them to bring cash, why didnt they just pay for the drinks themselves? imo u created the problem urself. this happens all the time and the host must eat the cost. with better planning u could have avoided the situation. perhaps collect money before hand?
ur friends cant keep track of how many drinks each had.
one friend may feel shafted if they only had 1 drink and another had 10.
if u told them to bring cash, why didnt they just pay for the drinks themselves? imo u created the problem urself. this happens all the time and the host must eat the cost. with better planning u could have avoided the situation. perhaps collect money before hand?
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Originally Posted by trainwreck,Apr 9 2007, 03:55 PM
i dunno how old u are, but opening up a tab to ur friends is a rookie mistake. too many things can go wrong.
ur friends cant keep track of how many drinks each had.
one friend may feel shafted if they only had 1 drink and another had 10.
if u told them to bring cash, why didnt they just pay for the drinks themselves? imo u created the problem urself. this happens all the time and the host must eat the cost. with better planning u could have avoided the situation. perhaps collect money before hand?
ur friends cant keep track of how many drinks each had.
one friend may feel shafted if they only had 1 drink and another had 10.
if u told them to bring cash, why didnt they just pay for the drinks themselves? imo u created the problem urself. this happens all the time and the host must eat the cost. with better planning u could have avoided the situation. perhaps collect money before hand?
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Originally Posted by CalBear,Apr 9 2007, 12:51 PM
I hear ya man. In every group, there's gonna be at least one guy who says "hey, I ordered so and so and it's only $24" instead of the $26 dish that everyone else had ordered and he "wasn't gonna tip more than his proportionate share".
heres a little tip, when going out with friends that like to force to pay everything evenly... always order a drink, and a appetizer. and make sure ur personal bill is on the higher end. that way when the bill comes, you can be the person that exclaims "okay everyone, lets split this evenly"