Is this an asian thing?
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For those of you who insist on chiding White people (whoever they are. . . ), go back and read Elistan's post.
No need to remember the dead. They're dead. If you are a burden on others, it's considered an insult. You're supposed to do your time on this planet, and then move on (to Valhalla, or wherever).
If you think certain chunks of white people don't honor their forefathers, you've clearly never been to an All Saints Day or Dia De Los Muertos festival.
Conversely, I'd take my parents' corpses, and push them out on a burning skiff, but the government doesn't allow that sort of thing anymore. Stupid EPA. . .
No need to remember the dead. They're dead. If you are a burden on others, it's considered an insult. You're supposed to do your time on this planet, and then move on (to Valhalla, or wherever).
If you think certain chunks of white people don't honor their forefathers, you've clearly never been to an All Saints Day or Dia De Los Muertos festival.
Conversely, I'd take my parents' corpses, and push them out on a burning skiff, but the government doesn't allow that sort of thing anymore. Stupid EPA. . .
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Originally Posted by S2020,Jan 18 2010, 10:38 AM
it's difficult to use the Caucasian frame of reference for Asian immigrants.
based on my own experience, I would say that most of what you stated here is wrong.
most of my friends are physicians (Asians or not). Most of them would be considered successful by most people standards. Almost all of my Asian friends live at home until their late 20's or even early 30's. The parents in all cases want this.
Most of them contribute significant financial support, not to mention emotional support to their parents.
based on my own experience, I would say that most of what you stated here is wrong.
most of my friends are physicians (Asians or not). Most of them would be considered successful by most people standards. Almost all of my Asian friends live at home until their late 20's or even early 30's. The parents in all cases want this.
Most of them contribute significant financial support, not to mention emotional support to their parents.
Cultural differences. In Anglo-American culture you don't live with you parents into your 30's by choice. Peak earning years in America are the mid 40s to mid 50s. It isn't the norm that 50-year-old Anglo-American parents need or want to cohabitate with their grown children.
This thread was about why a white girlfriend doesn't want to move in with her in-laws. Cultural differences are the reason why it is perfectly acceptable for some and not to others.
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Originally Posted by 05s2kmm,Jan 18 2010, 05:14 PM
hey everyone not need for personal attack against each other race. Everything works out fine, how do you close a thread?
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Don't move in with her unless you help pay the bills.
If you do, she'll destroy your PS3.[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKY3uTvKGOQ [/media]
If you do, she'll destroy your PS3.[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKY3uTvKGOQ [/media]
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I haven't read every single post on this thread so advanced forgiveness if this has already been stated.
In response to the original topic (although watching gfs thrash ps3s and xbox360s is very entertaining)...
In my observations, the parents living with their siblings (and vice-versa) is not just an Asian tradition but more of a Chinese and SE Asian (Viet/Thai/Laos/Flip) etc. common practice.
I personally have a lot of friends from those ethnicity groups that either live at home or have their parents live with them.
Props to you for helping your parents out, paying their mortgage, and being a very responsible and caring son in your culture. For those who don't have follow this same practice, does not make you a better or worse son/daughter, this is really just a proponent of one's culture, upbringing, and way of life.
As you can see (hopefully) by my SN, I am Asian but I would never want to live with my parents again unless some extreme circumstances (financial, health, etc.)
I love my parents and I love my in-laws but I think it would drive me absolutely crazy to actually live with them indefinitely.
That being said, I would love to live significantly closer to them so I could see them a lot more often. Both my parents and one in-law are on the other side of the country and while we do see my mother in law regularly, she's still a 3 hour car ride away.
While your girlfriend should be a little more supported, I think you should see her perspective as well. There are definitely significant gaps in opinions of closeness to family and parents, if you truly care about each other you should find a happy medium. I think this has to happen to respect both of your different views on this subject. If you can't, like I think other people have said, your relationship is probably doomed to fail.
Finally, I don't think the comment on 'lucky enough to be dating a caucasian girl' was taken out of context. I think (hope) that he would have said the same thing about dating an African-American girl, an Asian girl, a Latino girl...just that he's lucky to be dating her in general because she's that great...
Ok, a lot longer than planned, enough digressing....I'll go back to watching girls breaking video game systems...and hoping that my wife doesn't get any ideas after all that MW2 that I've been playing...
In response to the original topic (although watching gfs thrash ps3s and xbox360s is very entertaining)...
In my observations, the parents living with their siblings (and vice-versa) is not just an Asian tradition but more of a Chinese and SE Asian (Viet/Thai/Laos/Flip) etc. common practice.
I personally have a lot of friends from those ethnicity groups that either live at home or have their parents live with them.
Props to you for helping your parents out, paying their mortgage, and being a very responsible and caring son in your culture. For those who don't have follow this same practice, does not make you a better or worse son/daughter, this is really just a proponent of one's culture, upbringing, and way of life.
As you can see (hopefully) by my SN, I am Asian but I would never want to live with my parents again unless some extreme circumstances (financial, health, etc.)
I love my parents and I love my in-laws but I think it would drive me absolutely crazy to actually live with them indefinitely.
That being said, I would love to live significantly closer to them so I could see them a lot more often. Both my parents and one in-law are on the other side of the country and while we do see my mother in law regularly, she's still a 3 hour car ride away.
While your girlfriend should be a little more supported, I think you should see her perspective as well. There are definitely significant gaps in opinions of closeness to family and parents, if you truly care about each other you should find a happy medium. I think this has to happen to respect both of your different views on this subject. If you can't, like I think other people have said, your relationship is probably doomed to fail.
Finally, I don't think the comment on 'lucky enough to be dating a caucasian girl' was taken out of context. I think (hope) that he would have said the same thing about dating an African-American girl, an Asian girl, a Latino girl...just that he's lucky to be dating her in general because she's that great...
Ok, a lot longer than planned, enough digressing....I'll go back to watching girls breaking video game systems...and hoping that my wife doesn't get any ideas after all that MW2 that I've been playing...
