Same for me...I'm always paying but I don't mind, I like it actually. I would have no problem paying for a relative to go to the school as long as I knew they liked it and weren't just taking advantage of something free.

Aside from my parents I know exactly how you feel...

 

Yea, go ahead and pay for him. Looks like you got a good attitude about it and don't expect anything in return.

Not to Hi-jack but here is my situation.

It seems as though I always pay when I go out with my college friends when I see them on the weekends(another city). I am also with my fiance when we all go out(both our friends). We go to dinners, movies, clubs, and bars. I always pick up the tab. I don't expect anything in return. They ALWAYS offer to pay for their own stuff but never pick up the whole tab as I would. Also, money is not a problem with them.

I see my gesture as a sign of appriciation for our friendship so I never expect anything in return. But they never would do the same. Why do you think this is?


I only have one friend that is not in the same group as above and we always exchange this gesture to one another. Almost like taking turns to say. This one friend is Vietnamese just like I am but the group above consist of only Caucasians.

I wonder if culture has anything to do with this?

What do ya'll think?

Mike

 

as has been said, make it about you wanting to do this with him, not about him not being able to afford it.

My theory has always been that if I want to do something with you, and you can't afford right now, I either don't do it, or pay for you. It isn't about you owing me for that later, it is about me preferring to pay 6 bucks for a beer with a friend instead of 3 - i.e. no big deal, and much more fun than drinking alone. Just make it clear you want him along to make it more fun, and you feel you owe him for putting you up. People are very sensitive about their income, so don't act like it's no big thing - it is to him, and most people. If you try to pass it off as nothing for you, you risk coming across as a jerk, not a great guy to know.

 

It depends on the situation.

I paid my brother's college tuition for a couple of years, because he couldn't afford it. We also paid for some of my relatives to fly from Ireland for our wedding, because otherwise they would never have made it, and never seen the US either.

I don't mind at all, as long as the person isn't just taking advantage of me. I once gave a friend a battery charger for free, and he tried to sell it back to me for $10 later on. Needless to say, he gets nothing more from me.
The only other person I refuse to pay for is my sister-in-law. She's one of those people who will never pay back money, and whose contribution always comes up way short at family restaurant outings. It's just her attitude about it that annoys me.

 

I have a brother in law who expects the world to owe him. We paid their security deposit when they moved locally, pay for dinner out, and I let him do some "rental painting" work for me...he was sooooo slow.... and he braided my extension cord (on my time apparently)...but i paid him well and he had nothign else going on.....

Anyway.... later, I was busy and needed him to look at a tub leak to see what was going on.... would have taken 30 minutes roundtrip...."they don't pay me enough" is what he told his wife (my wife's sister).....and he didn't go look at the tub....

NO SOUP FOR HIM!

 

Bunch of cheap-ass cracka's..????