hahaha... That's what I thought too. This girl I went out with... we were merely just friends. We got to this restaurant ordered some drinks and food and she expected me to pay. I don't mind paying but she acted like I'm the guy and I have to pay. I just met this girl too!!

 

huge fail. never see her again.

 

^^ It turned me off really bad. I don't think there will be a second nothing with her. Unless she invites me to hang out with her hot friends!

 

^ Did you invite her out? Did she know that you just wanted to be friends, or did she think you were interested in her? Is she a broke ass (or even if she's not, does she make less money than you)?


I'll occasionally take female friends out to lunch and I'll pick up the tab, just because they make less money than me and I feel like it's nice to "share the wealth." I usually reserve this treatment for girls I've known a long time, though. And they always at least offer to pay their share, unless I've told them up front that I'm buying.

 

sounds like maybe she thought you were asking her out on a date

 

Quick review:

There are three types of women (for the sake of this discussion):

1. Girls you want to pork.

2. Girls you have seen naked, and don't need to see again.

3. Girls you never want to see naked (and/or co-workers)

For women-types 2 and 3, you're out with the guys. Pay your share, unless there's actual business going on.

If in the case of #1, and she's really hot, she's expecting dinner. She's hot enough, that's the standard. Don't fall into this moronic and wallet-draining drudgery. You'll get laid faster by being different.

Meet her for drinks. 10pm.

If you HAVE TO have dinner (or, you're looking her over, b/c you've got "the reliable" scheduled for 10pm), eat beforehand. Get there, order soup and a salad. She'll have to have stones bigger than Madoff's to order more food than you and come off as "feminine." Worse case scenario, you spend ~$30 for two high-end salads. . .

BTW, a great place to go "trolling" is at these high-end restaurants where the guys throw down the bucks. Find a corner in the bar. Stay quiet. Keep to yourself. If you look mysterious enough. . . things will happen.

Last Thursday I was at a fairly high-end Fish-and-Steak place in a VERY wealthy town. . . walked into the bar, ordered a martini, and opened up a book. 2 chicks came up to me and asked what I was reading, and 1 asked why I was reading in a restaurant bar ("I can't get a Tanq-10 martini at Starbucks"). Got digits. I was out $9 for the martini, and $7 for the book (the book was good too so. . .)

 

If I invite them out then I pay. I only invite out girls that i want to get down with so...

Last date i went on I paid for dinner then she said "i'l pay for the next thing we do". we went bowling after that and she bought a few drinks - i paid for bowling, I would rathewr pay in most cases but I'm carefull not to get used too

 

uh.... she invited me so I agreed to it. I'm not complaining or it really doesn't matter to me if I pay or not. It's the principle behind it. She stood there like I was suppose to pay for everything which I did anyways. As long as the girl offers to pay once in a while(even though she doesn't have to because I end up paying for it) I don't have problem paying for the meal each and everytime we go out. But yeah... occasionally I would invite my friends(girl) and I would pay even if they make more money or less money than I do. I do share my wealth and considering I make average money... it doesn't matter to me. I try not to let them take advantage of me though. I hate it when that happens. I do invite some of my buddies sometimes out too and I pick up the tab sometimes. Depending on how I feel at the moment.

 

Ha... if she invited you, you should've just stood there and waited until she broke out the wallet. That's a bit ridiculous, unless she says upfront: Hey, will you buy me dinner? If she just said, Hey, let's go to dinner, then she'd better be expecting to pay her share. Yeah, that would've ticked me off a bit, too. I'd definitely be prepared to make her pay her share next time... at least you won't be caught off guard.

 

Essentially, I think it boils down to who asked who out.

Don't sleep fellas, they're some shady chicks out there who will use you just for free meals and some drinks. Especially once they think you're always going to pay everytime the two of you head out.