Ended a 5.5 year relationship. We were engaged.
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Originally Posted by Dizings2k,Mar 2 2009, 08:26 PM
Long story short, I ended a 5.5 year relationship with my fiance.
She had been getting lazier and lazier around the house. She did not want to work more than 20 hours/week yet wanted all the nice things in life. She stopped cleaning up after herself, stopped putting any effort into our relationship.
I ended it saying that I have too much on my plate with work, school and us living together. I would come home from work/school and she breakfast plate, lunch plate and any condiments/utensils were still laying all over the coffee table. She would be upstairs sleeping after her hard 5 hour shift at work.
Anyway,
So it is ended, I went and bought a 2004 Suzuka.
We have been broken up for 2 weeks now. I have not pursued any other woman.
So the other night, I see her car at the bar/club (The parking lot is on the main drag here) and my dumbass decides to head home, freshen up and head up there solo.
She saw me come in, looked like a deer in headlights. We did not speak the whole night.
She starts dancing with this wigger dude. She was standing there BARELY moving her hips and so was he. She saw me looking at her, turns around and puts one arm around the guy. It ripped my heart out. That went on for maybe 10 minutes.
Later on, she is talking with the dude.. I am sitting at the bar and all of a sudden she powerwalks out of the place.
I decide to wait a few seconds and walk after her.
I get outside and I see she is hunched over in her car (crying). I walked back in the bar, ordered my last beer and then headed home.
I figured at this point she was pretty depressed about our situation. I was ready to call her bawling and professing my love for her even though our relationship was garbage and I know it will never work. I was severely depressed.
So the next night, Im on my way back from my buddies house when I see her car at the bar AGAIN!
My questions:
Is she at the bar just to get some attention to make herself feel better?
Why would she have stormed out like that?
WHY oh why can I NOT get her out of my head?? I keep having these urges to call her and try to work things out.
How could she just hang on some other dude after only 2 weeks of being broken up? I mean.. we rented a house together, we have our 2 dogs, pictures, memories, possesions.. We have a little family here. How could she just forget about all that?
I need help getting through this.. Please offer some insight. My mind just falls into depression randomly and I want to call her.
She had been getting lazier and lazier around the house. She did not want to work more than 20 hours/week yet wanted all the nice things in life. She stopped cleaning up after herself, stopped putting any effort into our relationship.
I ended it saying that I have too much on my plate with work, school and us living together. I would come home from work/school and she breakfast plate, lunch plate and any condiments/utensils were still laying all over the coffee table. She would be upstairs sleeping after her hard 5 hour shift at work.
Anyway,
So it is ended, I went and bought a 2004 Suzuka.
We have been broken up for 2 weeks now. I have not pursued any other woman.
So the other night, I see her car at the bar/club (The parking lot is on the main drag here) and my dumbass decides to head home, freshen up and head up there solo.
She saw me come in, looked like a deer in headlights. We did not speak the whole night.
She starts dancing with this wigger dude. She was standing there BARELY moving her hips and so was he. She saw me looking at her, turns around and puts one arm around the guy. It ripped my heart out. That went on for maybe 10 minutes.
Later on, she is talking with the dude.. I am sitting at the bar and all of a sudden she powerwalks out of the place.
I decide to wait a few seconds and walk after her.
I get outside and I see she is hunched over in her car (crying). I walked back in the bar, ordered my last beer and then headed home.
I figured at this point she was pretty depressed about our situation. I was ready to call her bawling and professing my love for her even though our relationship was garbage and I know it will never work. I was severely depressed.
So the next night, Im on my way back from my buddies house when I see her car at the bar AGAIN!
My questions:
Is she at the bar just to get some attention to make herself feel better?
Why would she have stormed out like that?
WHY oh why can I NOT get her out of my head?? I keep having these urges to call her and try to work things out.
How could she just hang on some other dude after only 2 weeks of being broken up? I mean.. we rented a house together, we have our 2 dogs, pictures, memories, possesions.. We have a little family here. How could she just forget about all that?
I need help getting through this.. Please offer some insight. My mind just falls into depression randomly and I want to call her.
Honestly, reading your post makes me want to...
