fiance misses ex?
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thats not cool. if she misses him, then if the opportunity presented itself shed probably get with him. But that also depends on her morality. But still its not cool to have those types of thoughts, knowing that your going to be getting married. Shes obvioulsy not over him.
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Originally Posted by dyhppy,Aug 27 2006, 02:30 AM
it important that you show her that you're not cool with it. women will think you're weak if you try to be nice and understanding about it. best case scenario, walk away for a bit and wait for her to come after you. gives you back the power. sorry for the situation.
good advice. maybe i'm just an idealist/hopeless romantic but if you're getting married shouldn't you be heal-over-heels for each other, so much so that she wouldn't even THINK about her ex? just a thought... maybe that's not actually how it works in the real world and i've just been watching too many sappy romantic movies.
or MAYBE she only said it because she feels insecure about the relationship? i know whenever i'd get insecure about my boyfriends i'd get them back by talking about an ex, or mentioning that an ex had called me, or that a guy at work had asked me out, etc. stuff that i normally wouldn't say anything about and keep to myself but in this case something to keep them in check so they knew the whole cheating thing could go both ways. you know what i mean? has anything come up that might make her do something like that?
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Mmm i think you may be getting upset over nothing. There's nothing wrong w/ missing poeple from your past that mean something to you. I miss my x-wife. We were best friends and continue to be good friends even though we'll never be a couple again. Would i cheat on my current partner w/ her? Of course not. Luckily my current partner is secure enough to deal w/ that.
Now if your friance said she missed the sex w/ her x, or continously talked about how much she missed him, that's a different story. From your post though, that doesn't sound like the case. You asked her, and you should probably be thankful she was honest enough to answer truthfully.
Relationships are hard enough w/o making issues out of things that probably aren't problems to begin with.
Now if your friance said she missed the sex w/ her x, or continously talked about how much she missed him, that's a different story. From your post though, that doesn't sound like the case. You asked her, and you should probably be thankful she was honest enough to answer truthfully.
Relationships are hard enough w/o making issues out of things that probably aren't problems to begin with.
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Originally Posted by j_c_a,Aug 27 2006, 06:31 PM
Mmm i think you may be getting upset over nothing. There's nothing wrong w/ missing poeple from your past that mean something to you. I miss my x-wife. We were best friends and continue to be good friends even though we'll never be a couple again. Would i cheat on my current partner w/ her? Of course not. Luckily my current partner is secure enough to deal w/ that.
Now if your friance said she missed the sex w/ her x, or continously talked about how much she missed him, that's a different story. From your post though, that doesn't sound like the case. You asked her, and you should probably be thankful she was honest enough to answer truthfully.
Relationships are hard enough w/o making issues out of things that probably aren't problems to begin with.
Now if your friance said she missed the sex w/ her x, or continously talked about how much she missed him, that's a different story. From your post though, that doesn't sound like the case. You asked her, and you should probably be thankful she was honest enough to answer truthfully.
Relationships are hard enough w/o making issues out of things that probably aren't problems to begin with.
