Squeezer...................even if it's not a "test", relationships are always tested. I can't tell you how many times my wife and I wanted to breakup ..............even after we were married Life is full of challenges. Dating and marriage are just part of that. But stick with it. If you truly love her, nothing will stop you from trying. There are more rewards to relationships than drawbacks And get her a gift for cryingoutloud Any girlfrined of 7 months deserves and EXPECTS it!!!! No matter how bad your finances are.


Good luck

 

I'm single...is she good lookin'? I'm willing to relocate ....Just kidding, that was really wrong. All i can say is I know what you mean. I was engaged to be married and then....well. like I said, I'm single. regardless of what happens just realize that life goes on. I'm 22 myself. We're both really young. I hope things work out for the best for the two of you. Take what Mindcore said to heart. Good luck

 

I believe true love should come first. I have seen marriages where either one of the two convert or have taken upon the religion of his/her spouse. So what if there's a couple who's madly in love and very much believe they're meant for each other after a very long time? But the only thing that differ is their religion/beliefs? I don't think they should split apart just because of religious differences. That'd be a major waste of time and effort. The problem should be resolved not just let go, that is, if the couple is truly in love.

 

Sucks dude and having no personal stake in this it's easy to say "dump her". But alas that is what I'd tell you. Clearly she's doesn't think there is a good fit which is just the start of your problems. She wants you to change. You're great except you need some changing to make you perfect. Not a good sign. She knows what she wants and your not it, close but not quite. 7 months isn't that long, I've been with my wife ten years, now that's a long time!

Fact is that the longer you stay, the harder it's going to be to get out. Each day represents an investment in time. If you get out now you'll have wasted little. List all the things she's looking for in a guy. If the list is you, then great! Otherwise you are just upping the pain factor. You aren't/can't/won't change who you are and she's not going to change what she wants.

The good news is that you are 22 and that every other person on the planet is a girl.

 

The good news is that you are 22 and that every other person on the planet is a girl.



you asked for advice, there it is. c3 hits the nail on the head, take his advice.

 

well, if the church thing for her is all that important, and you don't fit her mold, it is better for you to just break it off. in the end, it will be either you goign to church just to please her, or she will stop going. if that last one is the case, sooner or later, she will stop and think why she did that, and things will start getting bad.

As far as the breakup thing, i too might have experienced the same situation. It all seems like when things get started, you would do everything for your girl. You will call her and talk to her, buy her stuff, spend all your time with her.. and she will think the world of you, but once you got her, things tend to die down. I think i might have hit that part in my relationship. Before, when i was dating other girls, it was at this point i would move on and find someone else. I was just not ready to settle down with just one girl. But my current GF is different. I want to be with her and i love her a lot. We both tell each other how much we love each other and care for each other, but we still have problems. I think the key is communication. We didn't really express our feelings for each other all that much. yeah, saying i love you was something, but i didn't really know how much. i guess i just took everything for granted.

I don't think she is upset that she didn't get her book yet. A girl will not break up with you just because you got her something else besides what she wanted for christmas. the whole thing is the communication deal. she was to feel like you are paying attention to her and think she is important. Not your work, your other friends.. or dare i say, your s2000, but sometimes, it is just hard to put all those aside just for your GF, but you have to see what is important.

I hope my GF reads this, cause i know she spies on this board just to see what i am up to, and baby, i just want to tell you i love you!..

oh yeah, back to Squeezer, someone said go down swinging, and i agree. don't just let it go. if you love her, fight for it......flowers will do nicely.. and so will vacation with just the two of you...

 

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Sucks dude and having no personal stake in this it's easy to say "dump her". But alas that is what I'd tell you. Clearly she's doesn't think there is a good fit which is just the start of your problems. She wants you to change. You're great except you need some changing to make you perfect. Not a good sign. She knows what she wants and your not it, close but not quite. 7 months isn't that long, I've been with my wife ten years, now that's a long time!

 

just dump the bitch and move on to something new, you will not be sorry! Sorry I'm not in the same sappy vien the others on this thread are on, but, after all, it is in MNSHO a valid opinion, and, MAN TO MAN.

 

the chain of badluck! man that's F***** bad! I've been in this
situation before just talk about it, I know it's easy to say but
maybe hard to do but i think you can work things out.

Good luck

 

well since i am a girl, i think my thoughts might help. let me tell you a little about my relationship and how i think and react. i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 years, so if you think 7 months is long, just think again. it has been really difficult throughout these 2 years, and many times i would have acted as your girl tiffany would have. actually girls don't really ask for much at all, just a little affection here and there, then we will be really satasfied and happy. of course i understand that all men give up being romantic and sentimental after "getting the girl" or being with them for a long time. it is the way all men work. girls i believe get use to the fact, like me and my boyfriend, he was sooooo romantic when he was first jocking me, giving me surprises almost everyday, but after the 6 months period he dimmed out like you did, so don't feel bad because of you being a guy! i think girls and guys are so much different, not only physically but also mentally. and besides you said she is 25 which is 3 years older than you? hey i am younger than she is and i even want to get married as soon as possible, it's just the way girls work. i ask my boyfriend to marry me everyday, he he but you see he hasn't yet. but if i really think he is the right guy for me i am willing to wait, because i love him. and for girls, we never say what we really mean, or want to say. we aren't always that straight forward. i think maybe tiffany really wants you to consider in marrying her, but just saying it in a different way, like hey let's break up. kind of urging you to do something..you get it? also about the church thing, it is not ridiculous if she wants you to go to church with her, and if you don't it might effect the relationship. really if she is a strong christian my advice is to attend church with her. christian really judge highly on if the campanion is christian or not. i think that is a critical aspect of your relationship with her. if you know you cannot tolerate her religion, then you mind as well forget about the whole relationship and look for a new one. ok that is all i have to say..if you have any more questions..just post and i will reply...and good luck..."love makes you blind"