Girlfriend wants to break up :(
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Originally posted by Mindcore
I do those things, like little love notes, flowers, calls to work, leavnig rose petal trails to the bedroom...BUT, I do it because I feel good making her feel special. Otherwise it means very little.
Mike
I do those things, like little love notes, flowers, calls to work, leavnig rose petal trails to the bedroom...BUT, I do it because I feel good making her feel special. Otherwise it means very little.
Mike
Seriously, great relationship advice from everyone leaves me little to add, except be true to yourself and be true to her...and everything will work out for the best.
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Originally posted by inurmammaface
i think girls and guys are so much different, not only physically but also mentally
i think girls and guys are so much different, not only physically but also mentally
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One thing to keep in mind in any relationship is that you never go into it trying to change someone into what you want them to be.
Could this be how she is dealing with you on the Church issue? Perhaps she has tried and tried to get you to go to Church but you show no interest, so she is giving up. Maybe not the sole reason, but like other's have pointed out, Church can be very important to some people. For example, my wife would tell people who wanted to date her that she wouldn't even consider it unless they became a Christian, and she was very steadfast about it.
Oh ladies:
As far as men "false advertising" with the romance, I've learned that women are also very good at false advertising, but I will not say what they are here
Good luck squeezer!
Could this be how she is dealing with you on the Church issue? Perhaps she has tried and tried to get you to go to Church but you show no interest, so she is giving up. Maybe not the sole reason, but like other's have pointed out, Church can be very important to some people. For example, my wife would tell people who wanted to date her that she wouldn't even consider it unless they became a Christian, and she was very steadfast about it.
Oh ladies:
As far as men "false advertising" with the romance, I've learned that women are also very good at false advertising, but I will not say what they are here
Good luck squeezer!
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Each person has KEY issues that they will not budge from. I think it is great she wants you to be involved in church BUT if its a key issue you dont go and its key that she does then the end is obvious.
I broke up w. a great girl over ONE beer. She forbid anyone she was seeing from having ANY alcohol. That was her key issue. I saw no problem w. a glass of wine / beer. I lost a very very good girl.
Life goes one.......
I broke up w. a great girl over ONE beer. She forbid anyone she was seeing from having ANY alcohol. That was her key issue. I saw no problem w. a glass of wine / beer. I lost a very very good girl.
Life goes one.......
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OK, Squeezer, Ive been in the same situation also.. (7 months for me too buddy)
I had the old ' i need space'.... and maybe we should be friends crap...
Dont underestimate the Christian church thing.... If you dont water her 'spiritual garden' then you will kill her flowers.... its that simple.. relationships are about sharing three things:
Spiritual
Emotional
Physical
Maybe you show that you love her with two of the three but she wants you to share love in the spiritual essence too. Its a triangle.
I too lost my faith due to an illness I had, but my Christian girlfriend helped me to see life from a different viewpoint.... she also knew that I wasnt into the whole church thing too, but after going back and reading the bible, and going to church on sunday with her, you will start to ask her questions about having faith again... this way you both will be involved in the spiritual side which was missing in your relationship.
I hope you two are still together and you can work it out... if you truly love her you will fight for her.
I had the old ' i need space'.... and maybe we should be friends crap...
Dont underestimate the Christian church thing.... If you dont water her 'spiritual garden' then you will kill her flowers.... its that simple.. relationships are about sharing three things:
Spiritual
Emotional
Physical
Maybe you show that you love her with two of the three but she wants you to share love in the spiritual essence too. Its a triangle.
I too lost my faith due to an illness I had, but my Christian girlfriend helped me to see life from a different viewpoint.... she also knew that I wasnt into the whole church thing too, but after going back and reading the bible, and going to church on sunday with her, you will start to ask her questions about having faith again... this way you both will be involved in the spiritual side which was missing in your relationship.
I hope you two are still together and you can work it out... if you truly love her you will fight for her.
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You're in a tough bind. You love her and she tells you she loves you, but something is not quite right. Being single is not always fun, but it can be. If you're not good with the ladies then this probably puts more presure on you. You could try hard to win her back or you could cut your loses. Write a list, figure out what you have to gain and loose. You obviously love her very much. Maybe you will find another and maybe you won't. I'm sorry about your situation. It's nice to hear that there are some men who do all these nice romantic things. I'm not one who could continue that kinda lifestyle for a long time. I like things plain and simple. The only thing I can tell you is love yourself and be happy with who you are. If you can do this then regardless of the outcome you will be ok.
I wish you lots of luck.
Marcus
I wish you lots of luck.
Marcus
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I'm 40 and I love being single and I'm almost to the point that a life of singledom is best for me. Not everyone is cut out to be in committed relationship with a "significant other". But I've had my share of girlfriends and I do happen to love women.
At your age, its especially hard to lose a woman you love; if its real love it seems like that person could never be replaced.
But, some words of wisdom passed to me from my father (he'd be 80 today if he were still alive) that may be a little scat, but here goes:
A good woman is like a good shit, there's *always* another good one coming.
At your age, its especially hard to lose a woman you love; if its real love it seems like that person could never be replaced.
But, some words of wisdom passed to me from my father (he'd be 80 today if he were still alive) that may be a little scat, but here goes:
A good woman is like a good shit, there's *always* another good one coming.
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