Great to see everyone acting like Adults... or young adults. BTW it is true that even with age the scare factor is always there.. that's you need to be verrrrrrry careful and be ready to deal with the Consquences of your actions as always. Hence: HOLD OUT AS LONG AS YOU CAN! It'll be good in the end. Hate seeing all these very young girls getting pregnant and having babies when they are babies themselves. But hey glad we could help in some sorta way

 

it's always a good idea for ladies to have regular ob/gyn checkups. IMHO anytime there's nonregular bleeding it's a good idea to check it out. There's a good chance we're right here, but there's a chance we're not and in this area you're always better safe than sorry.

 

the scientific term for this is called vaginismis (spasm of the vagina) which is perfectly normal.

there's a possibility that you could have broken the hymen. and if you did, it's no biggie. ob/gyns can't really tell if it's broken. in the long run, it's doesn't really matter. as echoed above, hold out as long as can and face up to the consequences if something happens.

technically, when a woman becomes sexually active, she should get a pap smear every year.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by The Unabageler
[B]it's always a good idea for ladies to have regular ob/gyn checkups.

 

picky picky picky

 

I agree with SinD, being a female, there are many ways to break the hymen, and you might not even know it. Some girls have a lot of bleeding, and other girls have none. In my case, when I had sex for the first time, there was a LOT of pain, but no bleeding. I was very active in dance, horseback riding etc.

Besides, when you do get married or she goes to the Dr., no ones gonna stick their fingers in there to make sure that she's still a virgin. Like SinD said, she's still a virgin until the actual act takes place, meaning full penetration. And the mental part of it.

Good luck, and wish you the best.

 

I agree completely with most every bit of advice here, but would also like to add something from an "old fogie." Before you go any further, just wait until you get married to have intercourse. Yes, it's possible, and hardly suggest there's something wrong with you. My wife and I were both virgins when we got married, and that was in our early 20's. We were engaged for 2 years, 2 months, and 7 says. (Is it obvious that I counted? ) We're getting ready to celebrate 19 years this month.

You're about to share something with her that is completely personal, and you can't have a "first time" again. Why share it with anyone else?

Like most good things, there aren't good shortcuts to sexual happiness. Others here are free to disagree, but I doubt that many of those who do will say so after being happily married for a long time.

My $.02,

Tim

 

Thanks for the response guys. We're probably not gonna worry for a while, and when we actually do engage in intercourse, obviously i'm going to use protection. And the point about it being a mental thing is good. =-) Thanks guys, and gals haha.

 

Just a note to SinD and the other women: Start regular pelvic exams with your gyno at 16, earlier if you have ANY history of cervical or reproductive cancer in your family. If in doubt, talk to your doctor, but earlier is better!

One of my friends in high school had had cancer diagnosed and relapsed once by the time she was 19; had she waited, she could be dead now, since cervical cancer spreads like wildfire.

Just a note, breaking the hymen can result in any amount of bleeding, from a lot or none.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Morris
[B]I, too, am amazed at the lack of smart-ass comments.