[QUOTE]Originally posted by EvoVII
[B]

hmm, Interesting approach, and I do have some Girl

 

we've got a saying in the UK

"all's fair in love and war"

tell her how you feel.....if you don't you'll regret it

 

first of all don't "profess" anything. If you do it'll be over before it even begins as you will have lost all control over the situation. You need to show her that you blow the other guy away, no contest. Your'e not gonna achieve this through being shy....you're gonna achieve this through being funny(making her laugh is the key to making her fully comfortable), caring, outgoing, and most importantly confident as hell. If she digs you she digs you, if not oh well. Don't "profess" anything though lol. That's the worst move you could ever make. In no way shape or form should you evre compare yourself to other guy, or try to fill voids that he is not filling. In fact you shouldn't even need ANY kind of information about their relationship, and what she's unhappy with. All you really need is to be very strong, independent, and confident that you are superior.

Just remember if you start professing it's over. You will have NO control over the situation as you will have relenquished everything to her. I mean why doesn't she just profess to you then? Right now she doesn't know if you like her or not and you need to keep it that way. Don't be clingy, don't be annoying, DONOT professs. She will think it's weird, I guarantee it. If you don't believe me try it and watch your friendship go bye-bye.

SHE's the one in the relationship, SHE's the one with the 4 year boyfriend. IT is up to her to end her relationship and profess her love to YOU. Not the other way around. You professing to her will do nothing, but if you play it cool and confident, maybe one day she professes to you. That my friend is how it needs to happen. So you need to control the situation and make that happen.

 

Do not covet thy neighbour's wife.

 

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by xpander4
[B]first of all don't "profess" anything.

 

I didn't read all the responses, but here's what I'd do.

If she's with a guy for 4 years, then sounds like it may not go anywhere. I'd be friends with her, and go from there. Eventually she'll need all that romantic crap girls need that she doesn't get from a 4 year relationship. You just show her you're a nice guy and the rest should work itself out. Don't force anything on her, what happens will happen.

If things don't work out, if she's hot, she'll have hot friends, and they'll see how nice of a guy you are. Maybe a threesome will come about!

 

in my opinion, i would just wait. even if you do tell her and she feels the same way, what would she do? drop her current boyfriend of 4 years? and if she did do that, i would never really be able to trust her. i was in a similar situation once. i was talking to this girl for a couple weeks, we ended up hooking up. several days later she tells me about her boyfriend, and how im so much better for her etc. i tell her to back up, she never mentioned a boyfriend to me before. but she goes on to explain how she doesnt care for him anymore and would rather be with me. in my eyes, i could never trust this girl. if she did that to her current boyfriend, what would i have to look forward to. likewise, if your girl just drops her boyfriend for new flavor, what would keep her from doing it again.

 

How long have you known this girl? And is she really a friend or you just want to get in her pants? In my opinion and it may not be a popular one but guys and girls cannot be friends. From a girls perspective yes, but for a guy the only reason to hang out with a girl is cause you dig her. My guess is that why you hang out with her in the first place. My advice to you is just play it cool, if she digs you she

 

cheers.

a toast...to maintaining control