That's my one fear... would be for us to get back together and then me having to break up with her a 3rd time. That would be so bad... like I wouldn't wish that on anyone cause it happened to me already once before.

But then again, I do look at it as a gamble and would be willing to give it another shot. All my friends tell me not to cause they think it will just happen again, but like you said... she used to do everything for me and used to put me on top first, before all, and it's an awesome feeling. I did the same for her, don't get me wrong, but having that back again would definitely be nice for sure. But again, like you said and my friend as well, there will be another one that will do that too and maybe even better.

 

What do you mean it took a little bit longer?

So how are things going since you got back with her?

 

And unfortunately for me, I'm always the nice guy and it's quite annoying to be honest. I always say that to my friend cause he's always viewed as the a$$hole and women are on him like you have no idea. So when I tell him this, he goes... you might see as something good but let me tell you, it sucks cause I can never get into a relationship cause those women I attract are only into the fun and that's it. So I guess there has to be a balance between things... lol.

 

It's weird, women love guys that treat them like dirt... I don't get it either. The ex that I'm talking about in my OP, she got back with her ex a million times and he treated her like crap... like really bad, you have no idea. And I told her... why did you take that crap from him for so long? And she said that she didn't know any better at the time.

 

women like being treated badly cuz it shows that u are a man that can stand for himself, not cow-tow to others. unfortunately, this genetic trait of selction caused them to favor jerks. i certainly dont like treating anyone badly, but it sucks when a seemingly nice guy like the OP gets punished for it.

good luck, man, but you're barking up the wrong tree, imo. best way to get her interested in you is to move on, gain social proof and look like ur having the time of ur life without her.

 

Oh that I am having a good time, but I know she's having a good time too... lol. That and also she rejected me once already before, but I think it was bad timing on my part cause she was still in her cold stage and I think still bitter of me breaking up with her. Obviously I understand where she's coming from, so I really can't do anything about it. She's always saying

Anyway... so update:
I ended up running into her on thursday night at this bar I went to. I was walking out to my car and she was just getting in with her friends. She just got a new car that day... the Scion Tc, which I told her to buy when we were dating (she was smart to listen to me with the car selection... haha). But anyway... she was being friendly but cold at the same time. After I got home, I casually texted her, sending my congrats on her new car, and was hinting at giving me a ride and she was kind of blowing me off... so I was kind of like... Eh. We ended up talking again through text and it's weird cause she's all into the convo and then out of no where, she just starts getting cold again... odd.

 

take a hint. PLEASE>

 

Things are going GREAT! She just left to go have dinner with her parents after an amazing birthday weekend.

The best thing I ever did for our relationship now was to sit down and talk with her about it. We had always been sort of "distant" at near the end of our past relationships, either with schoolwork or her internships keeping us busy and apart and that seems to be the source of our (read: my) troubles. I would get frustrated at not being able to spend time with her, and I would become more angry about not being able to spend time with her instead of remembering how awesome our times together were.

^As the last poster suggested, she may be giving you a hint about her feelings. Either way, you are going to have to confront her about it. Better sooner than later, as she may get irritated with you as time goes on if she thinks you are playing games. And remember, if it's meant to happen, it will happen.

 

Communication is the only way to win her back. She must understand why you dumped her and why she should let you back into her heart, after you broke it, twice. She has to believe that you have learned from the past, and won't just do a repeat of the same bs. You have to prove to her that you have learned and changed.

 

Unfortunately, people usually don't change. Groveling and scraping to gain back her affections puts that a man at the bottom of the relationship food chain. As a man, if you don't have the upper hand in a relationship, its not worth it and a supreme waste of time. The girl has to really dig you and she must go out of her way to be with you and make you happy. Unfortunately for American men, Americanized women read Cosmo and listen to bad advice that instructs them to play hard to get and to have the guy work for the p*ssy. It seems interesting that marriage is at an all-time low in the United States, hmmm, could this be that guys are finally catching on and making women work for it...maybe.