love. why?
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Originally Posted by thebig33tuna,Aug 25 2010, 06:27 AM
In this thread
-guys who are bitter about past relationships will bitch about them
-guys who want to act like macho studs will pretend they couldn't possibly be monogamous
-a few guys with good relationships will talk about how awesome they are
I feel like we've had this thread before.
-guys who are bitter about past relationships will bitch about them
-guys who want to act like macho studs will pretend they couldn't possibly be monogamous
-a few guys with good relationships will talk about how awesome they are
I feel like we've had this thread before.
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Originally Posted by s2k harry,Aug 25 2010, 10:44 AM
As previously mentioned, I was in a 4 year relationship which ended cause she cheated. It didn't end initially cause I was thinking like you. Hope for the best, expect the worst. Things were never the same for me, my friends and family noticed that I wasn't my usual self. In the end, I couldn't take it we broke things off and then my family and friends noticed how much happier I looked/acted. Various people who were close to me would actually say "you look much happier now"
In the end the decision is up to you, but I honestly think you should end the relationship. Do your own thing for a while and if someone steps into your life don't shoot them down cause of your past relationships. Don't think of all women as being "bad" maybe just think of the women in your past as not being the type of woman you see yourself building a family with.
In the end the decision is up to you, but I honestly think you should end the relationship. Do your own thing for a while and if someone steps into your life don't shoot them down cause of your past relationships. Don't think of all women as being "bad" maybe just think of the women in your past as not being the type of woman you see yourself building a family with.
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Originally Posted by nt7,Aug 26 2010, 08:59 AM
:singing: what is love
well you get the point of the song
well you get the point of the song
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Originally Posted by gotrice02,Aug 26 2010, 02:42 AM
A one night stand is the definition of "just sleeping" with a chick. Of course you never need anything from a woman after sex, because you just got what you needed. Now you can go to sleep and don't have to listen to them talk about their cat anymore. Polygomy is based on multiple relationships, my previous point was that long term relationships are becoming a thing of the past. Guys like Raptor are old and from a previous generation, which partly explains his long marriage. His generation will likely will the last where true monogamy is actually commonplace.
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Originally Posted by DFWs2k,Aug 26 2010, 10:56 AM
i don't think you can be in a successful relationship after someone cheats, so i would've left right then unless i could've got her to buy me some more stuff first
if you've been cheated on. end it. people don't change. not quickly enough to make that relationship work, at least.
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I'm with Kyushin on Ex's. I believe relationships end for a reason, and usually that reason is a good reason. No one has ever ended a relationship based on the fact that they were too good together because good relationships don't end. Usually there is something that is wrong. I believe that people can change. At the same time I don't believe in second chances. If you've been nothing but a prince to her, she will see it, realize how much she fked up and she will always come back. That's karma.
As for love, I'm starting to take the scientific approach to it in that love is nothing but a release of chemicals to the brain to make you feel a certain way in order to create the environment for procreation. There's the step after that which makes sure the male sticks around long enough to provide resources for the female to give birth and raise the child. I think that step isn't as primal and powerful as the urge and the act of procreation which is maybe why relationships don't last as long anymore. Society is finally saying it's no big deal to divorce which is really a new concept in the timeline of civilization. Do animals fall in love, or do they merely form short term bonds long enough to procreate? As far as I know there are very few species in the animal kingdom that actually mate for life. I think we say there's a notion of love only to kid ourselves into thinking we've evolved from animals. Makes for good movies though I suppose!
Looking at the old double standard, just be thankful you are a man. Sure we have to pay for the dinners and we get screwed over in divorce courts (pre-nups can prevent that). But in the long run women have to deal with the biologic clock and menopause. Their perceived value goes down each year while our perceived value goes up with time. Just like ipods is what I always say! Each year the older models have to compete with the slimmer, better looking models!
As for love, I'm starting to take the scientific approach to it in that love is nothing but a release of chemicals to the brain to make you feel a certain way in order to create the environment for procreation. There's the step after that which makes sure the male sticks around long enough to provide resources for the female to give birth and raise the child. I think that step isn't as primal and powerful as the urge and the act of procreation which is maybe why relationships don't last as long anymore. Society is finally saying it's no big deal to divorce which is really a new concept in the timeline of civilization. Do animals fall in love, or do they merely form short term bonds long enough to procreate? As far as I know there are very few species in the animal kingdom that actually mate for life. I think we say there's a notion of love only to kid ourselves into thinking we've evolved from animals. Makes for good movies though I suppose!
Looking at the old double standard, just be thankful you are a man. Sure we have to pay for the dinners and we get screwed over in divorce courts (pre-nups can prevent that). But in the long run women have to deal with the biologic clock and menopause. Their perceived value goes down each year while our perceived value goes up with time. Just like ipods is what I always say! Each year the older models have to compete with the slimmer, better looking models!
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Perception is not reality, but don't tell a woman she's wrong.
Perception is reality, based on American marketing.
American marketing demands that the consumer be left wanting more.
Most women are ridiculously insecure. Anything resembling the truth, like, "I don't know," "Life is uncertain," "I'll pick you up at 7pm," or, "You look good tonight" are perpetually met with doubt and suspicion until they decide that what they are perceiving is right.
She wants more, and it's been imprinted upon her to view you as a marketing goal, not a human being.
In the end, all that you have is your soul.
Perception is reality, based on American marketing.
American marketing demands that the consumer be left wanting more.
Most women are ridiculously insecure. Anything resembling the truth, like, "I don't know," "Life is uncertain," "I'll pick you up at 7pm," or, "You look good tonight" are perpetually met with doubt and suspicion until they decide that what they are perceiving is right.
She wants more, and it's been imprinted upon her to view you as a marketing goal, not a human being.
In the end, all that you have is your soul.
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