Thanks for all the replies guys..

I would hate to feel so lost if I broke up with the current gf and then all of a sudden Im flying to miami. In miami Im sure Ill see some other girl that looks good and then itll just hit me right there that the grass isnt always greener somewhere else.

Maybe I need to get out of what Im in and get with someone new, and just ride this whole ex thing out. Whereever it goes it goes but I think for right now, the situation that Im in is bad.

I regret tying our finances so much. I do it though because I dont trust that if she has her own account that shell have her half of the bills every month.. What do I do then? Her family certainly doesnt have the money to back her up. Ill have to foot the bill. Im not letting my credit take the hit.

Ill keep you guys posted..

thanks again,
Dustin

-Edit: I never thought of having a gf thats into everything you are would be a bad thing. I never thought of it as her being attached to my hip.. Its true though, I enjoy my time alone on my bike. I just hate when I get back shes all pissy. Theres no happy medium with these creatures is there?

 

+1 for dumping and getting on with your life.

Now, comes the tricky part:

1. Pay any remaining balance on the card. Even if you didn't rack up those expenditures. Pay your penance for making the mistake you did, and, more importantly, don't give her a single reason to ADD anything MORE to the card.

2. Empty the accounts.

3. Leave the pets with her.

4. Run.

Chances are, you'll feel so good, some girl will totally get the confidence vibe off of you, and you'll be in a new world. . .

 

men don't feel feelings

 

just ask yourself... is your ex worth it? if she is then just do it.

 

Admittedly, I haven't read enveryone's responses, but here are my thoughts. (I'm not a relationship counsellor, but I am a social worker. )

There are two separate situations here that are coming together. Based on your initial post, you are unhappy with your current gf, but don't want to break up with her because the thought makes you uncomfortable. I broke off an engagement and let me tell you I have never felt worse. Yeah, it was brutal, but we both knew we weren't right for each other and not once have I regretted it. You are far too young to continue being with someone who clearly doesn't make you happy.

You said that your ex wouldn't see you as more than friends, so it sounds like you wouldn't get back together. Maybe there was something about the way you broke up that left you feeling like things were unfinished? "Closure" is often underrated. We all need certain things to feel like we are able to move on.

I really hate giving advice, but I think the best thing to do it break up with your girlfriend, take some time for yourself. That could mean being single, dating, casual relationships, whatever.

 

I agree 100%

Recently did my whole "closure" bit with my ex and I feel much better for it.

You're young, sometimes things just aren't meant to be. Life is a learning process. Don't end it if you still feel there's hope, but if you know in your gut it's doomed, do your best to make it an amicable ending.

with regards to the "having things in common" - I found that I, personally, enjoy having things in common with my sig. other. That was lacking in my past relationship and is present in this one. Only counting the two serious/could be serious ones here, present being the could be serious - not the sort of "dated for a month or two and then split" type. Generally had things in common with all of those.

I like it but to each their own!

 

Call up Tom Likys (spelling), he'll know what to do!

 

Isn't there an old saying: Women... you can't live with them and you can't kill them.

 

you boys are so mean. women are amazing, it's just hard to sift through the tricks & hos sometimes. i always tell my guy friends: there are two types of women... the kind you date and the kind you fuk. your standards should be 10 x's higher for the kind you date. and i tell my girl friends that they should always act/present themselves in a manner that shows that they are the kind of woman you date, not just fuk. there's a lot of male chauvinism on this board, i've noticed lately.

 

yes, yes they are.

they're AWESOME....IF you're with the right one.

PS. i only fuked the ones i dated...."free" sex is de-moralizing.....for both parties.