Yep that's the one. Not to rag on the thread starter, just having a little fun.

 

IMO...

Just from your short intro I would say that you still have strong feelings towards your EX.

Inside you want to see her again.... but your smart enough to know that it would not be the right thing to do.

Being friends or associating after a long term relationship is always hard because the relationship will now have boundaries.

Where your relationship once was very intimate....now would be reduced to small talk....

Your on the right track....just move on....

 

Sometimes it's easier to hate someone you've loved so that you can get over them.

 

I actually think there is an issue to be resolved if you want me to take these threads seriously. You don't want to see her because something hurts, which leads me to believe that the breakup was not entirely a mutual agreement? Maybe she split when you did not want to? (no offense man, everybody has been there)

If you still have feelings you have to figure that out and let her know how you feel. If she broke it off the first time, she may rip your heart out again but if you are going to carry a torch silently forever, that is worse wondering if she might have been interested in getting back together.

Come to grips with what you want, let the chips fall, and live with the result. If she restates that she is not cool with getting back together, if that is what you truly want, then maybe you can come to grips with it easier.

Some total fem wrote a peom long ago with a line in it something to the effect of "The greatest tragedy in life is love unexpressed" You follow me? You don't tell your parents you love them and then they get hit by a bus and you regret never telling them. Same with this chick perhaps.

I might be dead wrong, but if you got issues with seeing her because it bothers you, and you are asking others for advice, sounds like you still got the hots for her and it will only make things change to tell her, not us.


Good luck bro.

 

"NO MATTER HOW FINE SHE IS. . .
. . . SOMEBODY. . . .
. . . SOMEWHERE. . . .
IS SICK OF HER $hieT." - Uknown (I saw it in a restroom).

Listen to that little voice inside of you. It's the one that broke things off. It's the one that knew something was wrong before you consciously knew it. That voice is right more often than not.

You did what you did. The trick is, don't repeat it the next time you're in a relationship. Be a man, deal with the fact that it's over, and that you're man enough (strong enough) to not only:

a. be honest with yourself about how you feel this second
b. be alone
c. reflect logically an intelligently about what transpired
d. Not committ the same mistakes next time
e. Not beat yourself up about the past AND/OR not date that kind of person again.

You are more of a man than you know; but you're the one who is going to have to believe in yourself.

-B

 

I used to miss my EX really bad. But then I got so used to the torque from the B18B in my teg, I could never go back to a 1.6 litre. I didn't refer to my EX as a her though. I treated my EX like an object.

 

The best part of an EX is you can really toss it around. . . maybe not quite like a 'teg, but you can still toss it all over the place, and she'll keep wanting more until you break her.

 

Ill post pics when I can, but you all have helped me a lot through your advice. I really dont want to explain it in full details, but she did mess up..No she didnt cheat, there was much more to that.

 

 

So true.

It depends what happened, too. If she committed some heinous offense that makes you want to hate her, move forward and never look back.

If it's just you "going through a phase," take some time off for yourself, but don't burn the bridge yet. You never know when either one of you will "get over it."