I agree with a lot of comments above. Its over bro - step away now and save face. Don't be "that guy" that sits around and whines and begs to "work it out" when any resonable onlooker can tell shes been over it for a while.

Go out, have fun, live life, and move on.

 

You're 22, and are in a relationship = Strike 1

You need to ICE her, and get on with making yourself better. That's the only way any relationship (with women, or other people for that matter) is going to be productive.

DTB.

http://www.tenetsofleykis.com/

 

it's hard to read up on some of these links and take what they say seriously, especially the last one. the truth is, i don't care about how many girls i sleep with or whatever, i don't take sex lightly, i know most guys are different, but that's just how i was raised and my religion. that's really one reason why we dated in the first place.

 

 

+ PIIHB!!!!

 

well everything is fine now. we talked it out like someone suggested and all it is is the trust issues. no more suspiciousness from now on from my part and we will be good. i realize how hard it is to diagnose something like this when nobody really knows either one of us or details.

 

Here's the bottom line:

You've been together for 1 1/2 years and both have trust issues still. That's not a terribly great sign. Especially not at your ages.

Just because it doesn't work doesn't mean either of you is at fault. The odds show that you will both meet, date, and break the hearts of (or have your heart broken by) quite a few more significant others before you find that "one special someone." Hell, the chances of finding that one person that's "perfect" for you are astronomical.


Besides...you're 22, she's 19. You both have a lot of growing up to do yet. Go out, have fun. Were you resentful that she was going out to bars and you were stuck home? Jealous that she was out having fun with other guys? Look deep down, and I'd be willing to bet you'll find that to be the case. And with that being the case, you're not ready for a real relationship. Go back to being a single guy. Have fun. You're only young once, enjoy it.

 

That was my problem a few years ago. She was always out when I was at home tired from work or whatever. Led to most of those jealousy/trust issues.

but hey, if you can work it out and are happy with it. I don't agree with the "enjoy it while you're young" mantra alot of people have. It doesn't work for everybody.

 

I didn't mean to go wild and crazy...

Just that...I was married at 22... Divorced now, and while my friends keep trying to set me up, I've realized that I'm more interested in spending time with friends and devoting time to my hobbies than I am in devoting that same amount of time to a woman. The way I figure it, I'm going to enjoy my hobbies and my life. If/when I meet someone that's OK with me devoting my time in that manner, whether she joins me in those hobbies or not, I'll be good. But I refuse to give up my hobbies anymore. After all, my hobbies are what define who I am.

So, when I say to enjoy being young I guess what I'm really doing is encouraging this young man to enjoy the freedom that comes with not having the responsibilities of a family man. Of being able to get out and experience life on your own. Try all those things you want to try (besides drugs, b/c drugs are bad, mmm-kay) that you won't be able to once you're settled down into the family life. Starting a family with the "what I could've done" questions floating around is probably not going to work out too well...lol Or in other words, check the other side for greener grass...

 

Actually, I didn't mean go absolutely nuts either. I didn't mean for that post to sound like I think it's a bad idea all the time, I just personally don't believe in it. Like my brother has been with his gf for 13+ years, approximately half his life essentially and he's happy. I don't believe he has regrets about it.

If you think it's good to go nuts while you're young, by all means. But if you want to settle down early, I think that's great too. I just don't think you should do either because it worked for others. As cheesy and cliche as it is, just do whatever you think is right.

and FWIW, I think your outlook is great.