Yup, young relationships rarely last and if she is young and hot you can expect being hit on constantly. Chicks don't like controlling guys or guys that are visibly in love with them. I can tell you right now, I wouldn't be dating/married to a chick who spent all her time at bars.

 

good point. honestly the only reason she had to go was for her job, since she quit, we've gone out a couple times as a big group of my friends and that was it. i ask her if she wants to go out and she says she doesn't. neither one of us was really ever into the whole bar/club scene. too expensive

 

You're 22, so it's not like you're the sharpest spoon on the shelf.

 

1. Grow up.
2. If a girl cheats, she's leaving your ass. Men are horndogs, girls cheat for different reasons.
3. She sounds like a great girl and your insecurity is ****ing it up.
4. Grow a sack will ya? Think, all these dudes want her, but she's going home with me.
5. If all else fails DTR,NATS and give us her phone number.

 

doesn't matter, dating a club/bar chick never works.

 

Andy,

I read your post and purposely did NOT read anyone elses because I didn't want my advice to be jaded...

First off...you absolutely owe it to your mom to tell her what's going on with your dad. I did it with my own mom. It's not the easiest thing, but it HAS to be done. Infedility is unacceptable... My dad and mom worked it out and when it happened again (years later) my mom decided to move on.

Second, you're insecure. Your trust issues with your girlfriend is because you think she'll find somebody better...in your eyes, that may be someone who looks better...but what she LOVES about you is YOU. Your personality is what she's attracted to, I'm sure...that's what connects people. Of course, the physical apperance of a person helps...but you have to have a connection.

I've been married for 10+ years now and without a doubt, I will tell you that TRUST is absolutely, 100% VITAL to a relationship. My wife is living 5 hours away from me right now...she's helping her family with the business and I'm working with the transition of T-Mobile...point is, we don't ask each other, "What did you do?" with the intention of "I suspect you are doing something wrong!"

My wife and I talk in the morning...again in the afternoon and again at night...it's not perfect...but it's temporary and lots of folks scratch their heads wondering, "are they still married..." (pesky neighbors)...but they just don't get it. When you really love someone, really trust someone, you know.

You can't simply decide to TRUST...you have to believe it...and I can't begin to tell you HOW to do that. If you feel insecure, work on ways to improve that. Asking her (your gf) everytime she gets off the phone on who that was and why did they call won't help AT all...

Best of luck. I met my soul mate early on...and I'm a very lucky person...I wish you the best in finding the same. Life is too short and we need someone that we can absolutely open up to... My wife knows me so well...my mannerisms, my looks... She knows when I'm not happy...when I am...and I know the same about her... I hope that for you man!

 

thanks raul, i'm glad you chimed in as you know both of us. like i mentioned before i realized that this is a problem that i have to correct myself so i'm going to do my best on it.

 

Andy, just saw this thread and thought I'd chime in.

Raul's absolutely correct (as much as it pains me to say it).

Trust is absolutely essential. The best way I can explain it is for you to sit down and think to yourself, "Has she ever given me any reason NOT to trust her". From everything I've heard, the answer is no. It's all insecurity in your head (and believe me, we all get that way).

The bottom line is that if you love this girl, you trust her. Treat her the way you'd expect her to treat you if the situations were reversed. And for God's sake, don't let the failings of other's relationships get in the way of your own.

At the end of the day, she's with you, obviously she loves you and trusts you. Just remember that, and be thankful that you're so fortunate.

 

You ratted your Dad out?

 

dont know what to say about the relationship, but DAMN is that a nice rollbar in your sig!





hope it gets better for ya buddy!