A 2 year relationship... then a 3 year relationship. Dude, you're doing something right, at least in my eyes.

My only tidbit of input has to do with her behavior. If she's starting to distance herself, something's up. And since you're noticing such a large change, you may have to get ready to move on. Although those three happy years were happy times, the little bit you're going through right now could very much be a waste of time. It sucks when it seems like you're hurting and she's just having a jolly time.

Regardless, it ultimately is your judgement. You have to decide if the situation between you two can be fixed. Three years is definitely a good argument for trying to fix the situation. But just be prepared for the other side. Fixing the situation does involve "confronting" her about what's been going on. And if she blows you off or doesn't seen anything wrong, then yeah...

The single life won't be bad at all, especially since you yourself mentioned you have options. Love can be so brutal though man. Just look forward to the happiness that WILL come.

 

Just as a word of 'warning'- I was in a great 3 1/2 year relationship and broke up with the girl, and then after much persuasion proceeded to listen to what about Everyone was telling me and 'enjoyed' the single life. I made some of the worst mistakes in my life, but its something that most guys really want to do. I mean, if you like running through random girls (the "college life") then get at it, because you should always be who you truly want to. But, for me, I was selling out to do things that I never really had the desire to, it was only 'playing the game.' It wasn't me, and I was disrespecting who I am, and the intrinsic values I had. So, for you, if you really prefer that stable commitment to a girl (one whos worthwhile, sometimes that can be hard to find), I'd say be patient for that one and don't sell out and take the stupid route that most people will advise you to take since 'your young,' because that's the decision I made, and I regret it. Staying with a girl who doesn't deserve or appreciate what you do is also a great disservice to yourself, but knowing whether or not she is doing that would require greater detail into the situation, thus you and maybe your closest friends (whom you could trust for valid advice) would be the ones who could determine that.

 

This sounds a lot like the movie "Swingers". If you havent seen it, watch it.
For those that dont have the time to watch it, here's a summary:

Girl breaks up with guy, guy moves across the country all the while pining over girl that has moved on. He sulks, he pouts, he talks endlessly to anyone who will listen about what happened to him, clearly not moving on as she did. He sabotages all his new relationships by talking about the old one. His friends all support him and try to get him back in the game. One day, completely by chance, he meets this girl who he likes and likes him as well. Ex-girl comes back into the picture and without even knowing it he has already moved on because of the new girl he found that was a better match for him all along.

Moral of the story is dont limit yourself because you never know what's around the corner

You're so money and you dont even know it!

 

they don't call him "double down" for nothing folks.
good analogy. dammit, you always get to posts right before i do

 

You pushed her away by being over controlling, now she's riding some other dude (and probably has been for a while now). A girl "taking a break" means she wants to screw other dudes while still having you in her back pocket. If all the other guys are a-holes she knows that she can call you and you'll be back in one second you'll take her back. My suggestion is to stop all contact with her, and just end it.

Go out and play the field a little bit, take some time off from anything serious.

 

hopefully he didn't date a girl for Three years with characterists like this.

 

yea, this chick is trying to give you signals that she is ready to move on. Once again, women never tell you what they want, they give you hints and use body language.
1.) She is acting shady
2.) She is wanting to spend time with her friends and not you and giving you the cold shoulder
3.) She is telling you that she wants more freedom and you are controlling.

I think you should move on, you shouldn't waste time trying to patch things up with her, just meet other chicks. My suggestion is to break off all communication because you are dragging it on and really wasting your and her time.

 

Thanks for all the responses. Just a couple facts I forgot to add since I was typing out of frustration last night. I'm a relationship type of guy. That's why I only have two girlfriends so far. I'm currently 21, will be 22 in January. I don't like to date around or have a fling with friends/random women. I'd rather come home knowing that there's a person waiting for me rather going out to find one.

I just feel like all the time and effort that went into the past 3 years is gone right out the window. Maybe that's just how I feel right now since I'm being pessimistic about the situation. So, I went out last night on a date. It felt good but just not the same. Maybe I'm getting the short end of the stick here, I don't know.

But honestly, I don't think she has moved on and don't think she cheated. I've known her for a while now and I'm more than sure that she's not that type of girl. If she truly needs time and space, they cool. I'm giving her that. I feel like I'm stuck/torn between staying in this and just let it go, and start the searching game again. I guess there's not much I can do about now, but let time heals the wounds, and let her learn the phrase "You don't know what you got 'til its gone."

BTW, I'm going to Vegas this weekend.

 

Go to the Spearmint Rhino...look for "Yummy" Girlfriend who???

 

I'll keep that in mind.