Single vs. Relationship
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Originally Posted by huys2200,Sep 12 2007, 07:19 AM
Thanks for all the responses. 
Just a couple facts I forgot to add since I was typing out of frustration last night. I'm a relationship type of guy. That's why I only have two girlfriends so far. I'm currently 21, will be 22 in January. I don't like to date around or have a fling with friends/random women. I'd rather come home knowing that there's a person waiting for me rather going out to find one.
I just feel like all the time and effort that went into the past 3 years is gone right out the window.
Maybe that's just how I feel right now since I'm being pessimistic about the situation. So, I went out last night on a date. It felt good but just not the same. Maybe I'm getting the short end of the stick here, I don't know. 
But honestly, I don't think she has moved on and don't think she cheated. I've known her for a while now and I'm more than sure that she's not that type of girl. If she truly needs time and space, they cool. I'm giving her that. I feel like I'm stuck/torn between staying in this and just let it go, and start the searching game again. I guess there's not much I can do about now, but let time heals the wounds, and let her learn the phrase "You don't know what you got 'til its gone."
BTW, I'm going to Vegas this weekend.
Just a couple facts I forgot to add since I was typing out of frustration last night. I'm a relationship type of guy. That's why I only have two girlfriends so far. I'm currently 21, will be 22 in January. I don't like to date around or have a fling with friends/random women. I'd rather come home knowing that there's a person waiting for me rather going out to find one. I just feel like all the time and effort that went into the past 3 years is gone right out the window.
Maybe that's just how I feel right now since I'm being pessimistic about the situation. So, I went out last night on a date. It felt good but just not the same. Maybe I'm getting the short end of the stick here, I don't know. But honestly, I don't think she has moved on and don't think she cheated. I've known her for a while now and I'm more than sure that she's not that type of girl. If she truly needs time and space, they cool. I'm giving her that. I feel like I'm stuck/torn between staying in this and just let it go, and start the searching game again. I guess there's not much I can do about now, but let time heals the wounds, and let her learn the phrase "You don't know what you got 'til its gone."
BTW, I'm going to Vegas this weekend.
for now your probably just not used to the single life style but change is a normal and over time you will see what most people are talking about
so leave her and explore
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Originally Posted by CKit,Sep 11 2007, 10:44 PM
She's already moved on. You're going to turn into the nagging ex-boyfriend. Don't play the chump. Bag some sweet, sweet a$$. Believe it or not, it'll make you more attractive to your ex.
Very very true. It gives them some reinforcement that other girls find you attractive and it's a great way to rub in that they can't have ya anymore.
Immature? Yes. Fun? Yes. Cause you can bet your ass she's gonna do it, just because she can. Power of the p-ssy.
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same boat right here....3.5 years...i always doubted how we would never work and vocalized my opinions..sometimes jokingly..rarely in a serious context...i guess it finally got to her...we broke up a couple weeks ago and its a mess now...we still talk and i have seen (screwed) he twice since we broke up...i feel like a dumbass and am realizing more and more i think i would rather be with her than single..as i always assumed i would want....hopefully our "break" produces something positive..we never are on the same wavelength about expressing how we feel (on ourbreak) so when it finally gets to one of us, a super long emotional phone call ensues...yikes...well good luck
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Originally Posted by JettaGT,Sep 12 2007, 02:14 PM
same boat right here....3.5 years...i always doubted how we would never work and vocalized my opinions..sometimes jokingly..rarely in a serious context...i guess it finally got to her...we broke up a couple weeks ago and its a mess now...we still talk and i have seen (screwed) he twice since we broke up...i feel like a dumbass and am realizing more and more i think i would rather be with her than single..as i always assumed i would want....hopefully our "break" produces something positive..we never are on the same wavelength about expressing how we feel (on ourbreak) so when it finally gets to one of us, a super long emotional phone call ensues...yikes...well good luck
I think it's hard to go back once you reach that break point, but good luck. I remember the feeling and it's a really shitty one.
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Normally, I come from the "Chirssakes! You're 21, and should be screwing everything that moves."
In the last couple of months I've realized you have to get to that point; it rarely comes overnight.
That said, dating is a Skinner Box. Either you can choose to be the box, or you can choose to be the rat. I don't like being the rat.
In the last couple of months I've realized you have to get to that point; it rarely comes overnight.
That said, dating is a Skinner Box. Either you can choose to be the box, or you can choose to be the rat. I don't like being the rat.
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Sep 12 2007, 02:53 PM
That said, dating is a Skinner Box. Either you can choose to be the box, or you can choose to be the rat. I don't like being the rat.
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Originally Posted by CKit,Sep 11 2007, 08:44 PM
She's already moved on. You're going to turn into the nagging ex-boyfriend. Don't play the chump. Bag some sweet, sweet a$$. Believe it or not, it'll make you more attractive to your ex.
I didn't have to read the rest of this thread. I stopped here. Take this advice. Plenty of fish in the sea my friend. SOunds to me like she didn't appreciate you.
Maybe she didn't appreciate him, maybe she's Early-Twentysomething. . .