Guys make fun of each other all the time, and almost nothing is "off-limits".

Of course guys have to realize that girls take insults a lot more personally, so it could be that your ex's friend forgot this, wanted you to feel like "one of the guys", or really intended to hurt you from the insult.

Either way, a "good guy" would (like you said) tell his friend to stfu. In his case, he was too passive to do anything.

 

I'm sorry but guys who don't defend their girls whether it be verbally or physically should be gagged with a spoon...

And the girls who actually date guys who treat them like crap then complain about it should be shot...

 

all this from a post about how guys have it easier than girls...

i've dated my fair share of assholes. i take the cake for the craziest ex-boyfriend, i swear. i'll put money down on it... i ended up having to get a stalking order on him. this kid just wouldn't quit. and the two boyfriends after him we're not the sweetest guys either...

my only explanation for it is that when i started dating them they were not assholes. once they knew i cared about them, they started behaving in ways that any other guy in my life would not be able to get away with. i stayed in the relationship because i'm not a quitter. i thought i could change these guys or that it was just a difficult "phase" of our relationship. it wasn't because i was stupid or had no self respect. it's difficult to let go of a bad relationship if you keep thinking about the good times you did have and how there's a minute hope that you can share that again. maybe it's called being "stupid" but i kind of always thought that was called "having a heart." i don't know... i cared about them... most relationships deteriorate and it's a tough thing to deal with.

but i also know there are girls out there who just straight-up date assholes. plain assholes. so i guess i know where you guys are coming from...

 

C_Unit.....
http://www.onlinecounseling.org/leav...ationships.htm
Hope it helps yo!

 

First of all, please get your fact straight, I'm not a guy. Secondly, I was speaking from an intelligent, educated and independent woman's point of view. Thirdly, please re-read my post, I did not say all women are worthless (that would be ridiculous!), which would include intelligent and strong-minded women like my mom and I, amongst many others. I meant to say that the ones who would put up with assholes who don't treat them with respect are stupid and worthless. They are a step-back for other women, who have been trying to ameliorate women's rights and progression for many years. Personally, I think those ones are just a bunch of mindless whores.

I don't know what kind of "nice" men you have dated to make you jump to the conclusion that all nice and respectful men are leg-humpers and without backbones. I have dated both the respectable and asshole-ish, and let me just say that I despised the conceited assholes, while I found the respectable to be quite desirable (some were very manly and handsome too). Maybe I just like to be treated with respect, but that's just me.

 

Some people find it hard to disassociate from their "heart".

It often times becomes an ego thing, giving up seems like something bad. I deserve to be in a good relationship this person should come around. etc..

NOT that I'm saying that specifically applies to you.

Many people have a hard time listening to their head.

You can be a empathetic/sympathetic person and still listen to what you know is right.

Often times people in relationships KNOW that this one is an asshole or not good etc. The ass-hole-o'meter is pinging but they don't listen.

When it pings once ok when it pings twice three times people need to disconnect from their feelings and use logic to get out.

It's tough to do that's why I recommend that everyone has a starter marriage.

It makes you understand that its better to be on your own and free to pursue life than with someone and alone



Everyone that listens to there head saves their heart. That being said, you don't turn your heart off. You just base your actions on your head. Let your heart break, and then continue using your head to keep from getting bitter.

Logically we know that there are millions of people out there that aren't assholes and that many of them would be great significant others. That knowledge should give you hope when your alone and keep your spirits up.

Loneliness often seems overwhelming. People must not allow this to be! You're only going to be alone until you find the next person and it you continue to deal with being single like this continuously you will find a right person.

 

to purplesky-sorry about the mistake. but you cannot assume you know the reason every girl thats with an assholee is because shes stupid worthless or whores. I agree with C Unit on the reasons why, and again, I didnt say ALL nice men are like that, just the ones ive been with. if you put your hand in the fire three times and it burns the same every time. eventually your not as quick to be putting your hand in there again. thats what im saying. But hey, if everyone thought like me this world would be boring. so to each their own.

 

Every girl that continues to stayin a abusive or otherwise bad relationship of her own free will is ignorant.

Period.

Either she's ignorant that its wrong.

Ignorant that there are better people out there.

Ignorant of her own poor reaction to her feelings.

Ignorant of a better way to approach her life.

There is no excuse that anyone can give me, a child, a bad past, etc etc...

Those are just reasons for her ignorance.

If you're the smartest woman in the world you shouldn't be dumb enough to stay in a bad/abusive relationship.

You should be able to control you emotions and do the right thing for yourself, regardless of your heart.

I'm not saying its easy but it is black and white.

Not trying to be harsh or cruel or unempathetic. I know what its like to be ignorant, I was there. Then I learned now I'm not ignorant (well at least that in that sense )

 

so does it suck to be a girl?

this thread ought to be called "it sucks to be a nice guy."

it is too true. you grow up, listen, do what you're told, work hard, get good grades, be nice to people and no girl to show for it. meh. parents ought to give the women of the world what they want and teach their boys to be jerks from the get go.

 

so true.