ugly but perfect
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Originally Posted by Amit,Jan 31 2007, 09:59 AM
On a side note, I wonder how many people eventually just give up the search for perfections and settle for the best they were able to get. That to me is a very sad thought. I work hard in life to achieve whatever I have wanted in life. Whether it was grades in school in the past, or now money. Thankfully, I've been able to get whatever I have wanted in life so far. I just turned 23, and starting to feel like I'm getting older and need to think about getting married. I don't think I would settle down just because the clock is ticking. If I did, it would cause problems further down the road.
My advice - Wait! You're a young guy.
I really don't suggest anyone get married before they turn 30. My interests spun 180 degrees x 3 times between the time I graduated college and when I turned 30. Seriously - I still talk to the GF I had right after college, and I know for a fact the girl I loved so much then would not be with me now. We grew in 2 absolutely different directions...
Many would probably say 30 is a bit extreme, but I'm telling you, it's not. You know what you want, and what's important to you.
As an alternative, go ahead and get married now - you'll still learn what you want a bit more when you turn 30, and will be able to apply that new-found knowledge to your SECOND marriage.
Just my .02.
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i feel that if the person isnt someone you might consider marring (ie being able to spend your life with that person because you get along so well) then dating them is superficial.
I'd rather wait for a girl who is a great match for me than settle for some 'hot chick'.
Looks are important, but i feel personality outweighs it MUCH more in the long run.
I'd rather wait for a girl who is a great match for me than settle for some 'hot chick'.
Looks are important, but i feel personality outweighs it MUCH more in the long run.
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Originally Posted by ENTHRALLED,Jan 31 2007, 08:01 AM
your wee wee can only take so much..then your gonna want to stop and rest/talk.
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i hung out with this guy once.... he was super-dee-duper nice. great personality, fun to talk to and hang out with. he had his shit together for his age... 20 yrs. old and he owned his own house. he'd make me dinner all the time and he was always really sweet.
anyway, it never got that far because the thing about this guy was that he was just NOT attractive. oh... and his house smelt like pickles. my friends thought it smelt like old mac 'n' cheese... but i always thought pickles. (hahahah... i know, WTF.)
i tried so hard to get over the fact that i was just not attracted to him... and the smell. BUT I COULDN'T DO IT. and in the end, i gave in to the supercial bitch that dwells deep down inside of me (well maybe not that deep down...) and told him it just wasn't going to work out.
am i shallow for doing it? i don't know, probably. but if you're just not attracted to someone (or the way their house smells...) than it's just not going to work, no matter how hard you try.
anyway, it never got that far because the thing about this guy was that he was just NOT attractive. oh... and his house smelt like pickles. my friends thought it smelt like old mac 'n' cheese... but i always thought pickles. (hahahah... i know, WTF.)
i tried so hard to get over the fact that i was just not attracted to him... and the smell. BUT I COULDN'T DO IT. and in the end, i gave in to the supercial bitch that dwells deep down inside of me (well maybe not that deep down...) and told him it just wasn't going to work out.
am i shallow for doing it? i don't know, probably. but if you're just not attracted to someone (or the way their house smells...) than it's just not going to work, no matter how hard you try.
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The answer changes depending on age. I would have gone all looks earlier in life, but you have to live with them. And after having dated a jillio0n really hot ones, I found I was losing interest after about two weeks. They were by and large idiots. Generally self absorbed, and had serious personality defects.
The best advice I have is that if you find someone you love to be around, be very careful when thinking of throwing that away. Someone you love to be with and who can be your best friend is EXTREMELY rare. Hot is dime a dozen.
Women can also be made over, just like they try to do with their boyfriends. Send this chick to Clinton and Stacey on What Not to Wear.
The best advice I have is that if you find someone you love to be around, be very careful when thinking of throwing that away. Someone you love to be with and who can be your best friend is EXTREMELY rare. Hot is dime a dozen.
Women can also be made over, just like they try to do with their boyfriends. Send this chick to Clinton and Stacey on What Not to Wear.
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There's gotta be something there. You don't need to worship at her feet, but you have to have some sort of spark there. Otherwise I'd imagine you'd end up resenting her and being pissed at yourself.