what are the benefits to being married
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If you find the right person, you will enjoy the companionship more than anything.
Be clear up-front and set expectations before marriage. The "I'll/They'll change
after marriage" part usually never happens. I let my wife know about my automotive
addictions and made sure she is OK with it after the knot is tied. Cars are a hobby to me and I could not imagine having to give that up just because I am married.
Guaranteed, you'll have to compromise on stuff, like making sure the family mobiles are in place before plunging on something like the S or parts, but it can all be
done. We have a 2 yr old son and another on the way. For the record, I bought
my S, 3 months after my son was born. When telling me about the 2nd pregnancy,
her second sentence was "you will be keeping the S. I know how much you love it
and Dad's need hobbies too."
She is a keeper, no doubt
Be clear up-front and set expectations before marriage. The "I'll/They'll change
after marriage" part usually never happens. I let my wife know about my automotive
addictions and made sure she is OK with it after the knot is tied. Cars are a hobby to me and I could not imagine having to give that up just because I am married.
Guaranteed, you'll have to compromise on stuff, like making sure the family mobiles are in place before plunging on something like the S or parts, but it can all be
done. We have a 2 yr old son and another on the way. For the record, I bought
my S, 3 months after my son was born. When telling me about the 2nd pregnancy,
her second sentence was "you will be keeping the S. I know how much you love it
and Dad's need hobbies too."
She is a keeper, no doubt
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Originally Posted by VTEC29K,May 5 2006, 04:29 PM
When telling me about the 2nd pregnancy,
her second sentence was "you will be keeping the S. I know how much you love it
and Dad's need hobbies too."
She is a keeper, no doubt
her second sentence was "you will be keeping the S. I know how much you love it
and Dad's need hobbies too."
She is a keeper, no doubt
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Originally Posted by mav,May 5 2006, 01:46 PM
If you need to ask, then you shouldn't get married.
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Originally Posted by VTEC29K,May 5 2006, 03:29 PM
When telling me about the 2nd pregnancy, her second sentence was "you will be keeping the S. I know how much you love it and Dad's need hobbies too."
She is a keeper, no doubt
She is a keeper, no doubt
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If you gotta ask you are thinking of the wrong gal.
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Been married 37 years in August to the same gal.
And when the kids finally grow up and leave you get to start all over again with sex on the floor of the bathroom after showers, naked rides in the S . . . . .
And you finally get to build your dream house/garage that is twice the size of what you needed when the kids were at home because they keep getting bigger and bring their SOs and their kids over - even if you can't afford it
My wife is even going to start autocrossing.
Oh, BTW you do get more sex.
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Been married 37 years in August to the same gal.
And when the kids finally grow up and leave you get to start all over again with sex on the floor of the bathroom after showers, naked rides in the S . . . . .
And you finally get to build your dream house/garage that is twice the size of what you needed when the kids were at home because they keep getting bigger and bring their SOs and their kids over - even if you can't afford it
My wife is even going to start autocrossing.
Oh, BTW you do get more sex.
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[QUOTE=Wildncrazy,May 5 2006, 07:11 PM] If you gotta ask you are thinking of the wrong gal.
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Been married 37 years in August to the same gal.
And when the kids finally grow up and leave you get to start all over again with sex on the floor of the bathroom after showers, naked rides in the S .
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Been married 37 years in August to the same gal.
And when the kids finally grow up and leave you get to start all over again with sex on the floor of the bathroom after showers, naked rides in the S .
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Originally Posted by Wildncrazy,May 5 2006, 07:11 PM
If you gotta ask you are thinking of the wrong gal.
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Oh, BTW you do get more sex.
There are no downsides and only upsides. With the right person the companionship and always having a person in your corner, her being there for you, the adventures you have, the growing together, just relaxing and being instead of always striving to put on your best face and worrying about what X thinks about you, etc. etc.
Oh, BTW you do get more sex.
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Those are certainly benefits to being in a good relationship. One doesn't necesarily need be married to enjoy all that, IMO.
(Depends on the individuals involved, of course. If one or both of the two have religious or other personal reasons to not enjoy an unmarried relationship, certainly avoiding a wedding can lead to problems. But if both people are comfortable living together without a contract with the state or a blessing from a priest, getting married doesn't bring anything to the table except the couple points I brought up earlier, as far as I know.)
(Depends on the individuals involved, of course. If one or both of the two have religious or other personal reasons to not enjoy an unmarried relationship, certainly avoiding a wedding can lead to problems. But if both people are comfortable living together without a contract with the state or a blessing from a priest, getting married doesn't bring anything to the table except the couple points I brought up earlier, as far as I know.)