Alright well I am an enlisted soldier in the U.S. Army. I have gone to basic training and AIT and I now belong to a medical company although I enlisted and and was MOS qualified as an engineer. I am in ROTC right now, and if I continue this path I will be recieving a comission as a second lieutenant in the army and I will have a comittment of 6 years reserve or guard, or 4 active. I fear that if I get myself involved in this that I won't be able to have a family, and or kids and be able to contribute the neccessary time to them as well as my job. I am not WITH anyone now but one of my biggest fears is never FINDING someone. Am I crazy for letting this get in the way of the army and my potential aspirations? I could stay enlisted, go to my second AIT and get my MOS qualification as a dental specialist and stay enlisted. Or I could continue my path as an officer, get school paid for, inevitably have a bachelors degree in something and increased chances of getting a good job seeing that I would have 6 years as an army officer in an administrative positon under my belt so I can get a good job when I get out. I am 21 years old, very indecisive and very dependant. What should I consider before I make a huge mistake, drop out of ROTC and sell myself short of my potential I know I have, but do not know if I have the operating tools to reach inside of me and pull it out. Thanks for the help.

 

first off, ur lucky as a guy and dont need to have a family so early. imo, people should wait till they actually have wisdom before they have kids to pass it on to.

2nd, even if u try hard to find a SO, it doesn't mean u will. so just do ur own thing and it will come to u. just make sure ur a good judge of future character to not add to the 50% divorce rate and even higher for officers if im not wrong.

then again, i would never want to have a contract with the gov.

hope that helps

 

when you meet the "right" girl, all the aspirations will suddenly change. It's stupid I know but you won't be able to do anything about it - you won't want to do anything about it...
he he he

 

One of my best friends met his (future) wife while on active duty.

 

If it makes you feel better

 

you need to have something going in your own life to attract someone worth spending time with. If you sit on a park bench all day looking for "women," you'll never find one.

 

My Brother Did the ROTC program, Went to School and got a degree.. He wanted the Air Force to be his "Career" and when he finally went into the service after graduating he came in as an officer not an airman. He ended up meeting his wife in a class they had together. They've now been married 6 yrs and he's still in the Air Force as a "Captain".

Basically what i'm trying to say is you can meet the person you are meant to be with anywhere and anytime. Don't fall back on your dreams and aspirations for the only worry of being alone.

 

Don't do chit until you're 30 in the SO department.

Since you're in the military, just try to have a few nice girls m(orally) support you, with the full understanding that:

1. You're not gonna be the babydaddy

2. They're gonna cheat on you - any woman that has a good sex drive isn't going to wait while you're doing 4 years active.

Since you'll have the uniform, you'll get more woman than you'll know what to do with anyway. Enjoy the variety, and stay safe (both with your gun and your rifle )

 

You're only 21. Having a steady income and no commitments is AWESOME.

My Brother-in-law Did ROTC in H.S. and College and is now a Major in the Army (He's 30 now). My sister is cool with his career path. Besides you're only in ROTC, you're not even commissioned yet.