Help Please! Need to convince parents....
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[QUOTE]Thank you......is going to make life great![QUOTE]
Thanks, this is definitely the most helpful post so far. I will talk to them today about this, and post a follow up. You were dead on when you wrote about "the one that you just can't let go," I had just found one like that, and was hung up on getting that one that night
. But really thanks, I appreciate all the help.
Thanks, this is definitely the most helpful post so far. I will talk to them today about this, and post a follow up. You were dead on when you wrote about "the one that you just can't let go," I had just found one like that, and was hung up on getting that one that night
. But really thanks, I appreciate all the help.
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Originally Posted by C U AT 9K,May 3 2005, 06:26 PM
Thank you. Dude, maybe you can try what i did. After my senior year in high school, i was floating on cloud 9. I had a new g/f, i got into college, i had lots of cash on hand, etc. I wanted the S and found like 5 that were potential buys. But my parents were smart. THey didnt let me buy it because they knew if i did i would neglect school by the time it came. Believe me, college isnt like high school. Youre really on your own. Your parents can buy u a car, but they wont know if you stay up for 3 days straight, or skip class, or miss a test, or w/e. And nobody really cares if you do. You gotta show yourself, as well as your parents, how responsible you are. Make a deal with them like i did.
This summer, get a job. Work hard. Get ready for college. Tell your parents your goals, grades and courses. Tell them what to expect from you. Show them youre ready and willing for a change in lifestyle. Then, GO THROUGH WITH IT. Get the grades, stay out of trouble (drinking, parties, etc. You wont believe how many kids i know have been written up and fined for underage drinking and stuff). Come springtime next year, around May (usually the time college gets out, i'm done by this Friday), start looking for that s2000. By then, theyll be cheaper. And dont get caught in the rut saying to yourself "oh but i want this one its so good its so cheap blah blah blah!!!! I cant let it gooooo!!" There will ALWAYS be S2k's for sale. Trust me. Show your parents you can stay level-minded. Show them you are responsible, that you have made it into a new lifestyle. College is no joke, its either win or lose, and if you lose, you lose dearly. If all turns out well, youll have a brand spankin new ride by June, before all the little high school girlies get out (if thats where you aim, i know a lot of my friends still do ) and youll have made a ton of friends in your first year at college that you can hang out with, etc. etc. etc. life is good!
You gotta have some sympathy for your parents. My parents have 4 kids, my brother is about to get his first car this summer. Be considerate, and show them that theyre spending their money on something that is giving back to them (my parents value good grades and education above all in this world, yours may too). the combination of:
Good grades
Satisfaction from your parents
New friends from school
Your adjustment to college life
Trust in yourself/from your parents
Great responsibility
Handing that money to the dealership, the money YOU saved up
is going to make life great!
p.s. - Dont get lazy sophomore year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This summer, get a job. Work hard. Get ready for college. Tell your parents your goals, grades and courses. Tell them what to expect from you. Show them youre ready and willing for a change in lifestyle. Then, GO THROUGH WITH IT. Get the grades, stay out of trouble (drinking, parties, etc. You wont believe how many kids i know have been written up and fined for underage drinking and stuff). Come springtime next year, around May (usually the time college gets out, i'm done by this Friday), start looking for that s2000. By then, theyll be cheaper. And dont get caught in the rut saying to yourself "oh but i want this one its so good its so cheap blah blah blah!!!! I cant let it gooooo!!" There will ALWAYS be S2k's for sale. Trust me. Show your parents you can stay level-minded. Show them you are responsible, that you have made it into a new lifestyle. College is no joke, its either win or lose, and if you lose, you lose dearly. If all turns out well, youll have a brand spankin new ride by June, before all the little high school girlies get out (if thats where you aim, i know a lot of my friends still do
) and youll have made a ton of friends in your first year at college that you can hang out with, etc. etc. etc. life is good!You gotta have some sympathy for your parents. My parents have 4 kids, my brother is about to get his first car this summer. Be considerate, and show them that theyre spending their money on something that is giving back to them (my parents value good grades and education above all in this world, yours may too). the combination of:
Good grades
Satisfaction from your parents
New friends from school
Your adjustment to college life
Trust in yourself/from your parents
Great responsibility
Handing that money to the dealership, the money YOU saved up
is going to make life great!
p.s. - Dont get lazy sophomore year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Are you really only 19? I wish I had your wisdom at 19.
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Well, here is the deal: if I am able to maintain 3.5 or higher for the whole year, they offered to pay for everything except for gas and maintenance. Now please realize that this is what was offered to me, I would have been content if all they did was the car payment, and I took care of insurance, gas, and maintenance.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
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Originally Posted by Bsbllr777,May 5 2005, 03:11 AM
Well, here is the deal: if I am able to maintain 3.5 or higher for the whole year, they offered to pay for everything except for gas and maintenance. Now please realize that this is what was offered to me, I would have been content if all they did was the car payment, and I took care of insurance, gas, and maintenance.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
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um...save your money and buy it yourself and suffer. thats what i did. i will own my S in four years, but at least i can say my parents didn't buy it and i did it on my own. it sucks having a car payment and being 19 and working two jobs, but hey, i appreciate my S every time i start her up...
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Originally Posted by Bsbllr777,May 5 2005, 03:11 AM
Well, here is the deal: if I am able to maintain 3.5 or higher for the whole year, they offered to pay for everything except for gas and maintenance. Now please realize that this is what was offered to me, I would have been content if all they did was the car payment, and I took care of insurance, gas, and maintenance.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
And to set something straight, I didn't really expect my parents to completely pay for my college education. What I meant was that if I had gotten less scholarship money than I did, then I would have expected a little more help. If I had simply been accepted with no scholarship, and the only alternative was a community college, than I would have taken out student loans, and done whatever I could to ensure that I could go to school where I wanted to.
their criticism and judgements have no basis except a comparison on their own lives. people don't seem to realize that DIFFERENT families, different cultures, different societies, different PEOPLE, do things DIFFERENTLY...and although these differences may be GOOD or BAD, they shouldn't PASS judgement until they UNDERSTAND completely the circumstance and situation.
I don't know you, nor your family, but WITHOUT passing judgement, i'm gonna say good job, hope you're happy, enjoy the car, and be responsible.
you OWE ur parents ur respect, so be responsible.
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Originally Posted by Woodson,May 4 2005, 09:40 AM
Are you really only 19? I wish I had your wisdom at 19.
Dont listen to other people. Be a kid, but be responsible. Youre working to impress yourself and your family, not random ppl on this board.
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Originally Posted by C U AT 9K,May 5 2005, 07:55 PM
Owning a car isnt everything. A 3.5 GPA is.
If you are going to a vocational school after graduating (Med school, Law school), your GPA matters. Otherwise, how much you learn - which is not the same as getting good grades - probably matters more. Having worked hard enough to buy a new car in High School or College would make a good interview story too.