Concerned about intimacy with the GF
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Originally Posted by BlackieZ,Sep 22 2006, 12:48 PM
Sorry, but regardless of her justifications, it sounds like she's playing mind games.
" She keeps saying... you don't plan on going anywhere and I don't plan on going anywhere"
If I was in your position and had that said to me, I would have been so pissed off. That just shows how much you're really worth to her. The chase is over, fun is done, now she thinks she has you all secure and to herself just because you're "official". That is such a giant stinkin load of bull shit! Exactly how does being "official" (and pardon, exactly wtf does that mean) make your relationship any different on a day to day basis?
I think you came across some one very insecure and with issues, who used sex to get you to commit so that she doesn't have to feel all alone cos her bf dumped her.
Wish her best of luck, stay friends with her if you want to, but for your own sake, move on. You don't want to be in a relationship with some one who has this much consideration for you.
" She keeps saying... you don't plan on going anywhere and I don't plan on going anywhere"
If I was in your position and had that said to me, I would have been so pissed off. That just shows how much you're really worth to her. The chase is over, fun is done, now she thinks she has you all secure and to herself just because you're "official". That is such a giant stinkin load of bull shit! Exactly how does being "official" (and pardon, exactly wtf does that mean) make your relationship any different on a day to day basis?
I think you came across some one very insecure and with issues, who used sex to get you to commit so that she doesn't have to feel all alone cos her bf dumped her.
Wish her best of luck, stay friends with her if you want to, but for your own sake, move on. You don't want to be in a relationship with some one who has this much consideration for you.
Why are women so damn confusing?... lol. I'm telling you, an owner's manual would be great... perfect.
Andre
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I'm coming in here late and didn't get to read the entire thread but I'll try to help. If you are sure you are putting it down when you get the chance and genuinely showing affection (not just to get in her pants but to make her feel comfortable) when you can't than she either has issues you will not be able to fix or she's just not that into you. No matter which of those it is it will never work itself out because there will always be "something". Hell, do a search on this forum. Her last boyfriend probably posted the same thing 5 months ago 
I'm sorry for your troubles but sometimes you just have to let go. I've even had it the other way around, where she wants it twice daily and I just wasn't that into her. We had fun together and got along great but the heat just wasn't there in bed. Do a little test and limit contact for a week, if she isn't crawling all over you and ripping your clothes off than you know what you have to do. Good luck!
I'm sorry for your troubles but sometimes you just have to let go. I've even had it the other way around, where she wants it twice daily and I just wasn't that into her. We had fun together and got along great but the heat just wasn't there in bed. Do a little test and limit contact for a week, if she isn't crawling all over you and ripping your clothes off than you know what you have to do. Good luck!
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Originally Posted by 8kGoodENuff,Sep 22 2006, 05:08 PM
I totally see where you're coming from here. But the weird thing is that she brags about me to all of her friends and co-workers... or so it seems she does. Cause like when I met them, it's like... finally nice to meet you, or like, I've heard all about you... you know, like stuff that would make it seem like she actually does brag about me. So I don't know.
Why are women so damn confusing?... lol. I'm telling you, an owner's manual would be great... perfect.
Andre
Why are women so damn confusing?... lol. I'm telling you, an owner's manual would be great... perfect.
Andre
)I think her actions with you speak louder then the stories she tells others.
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from reading page 1 of this thread I have reached this conclusion:you seem to have a very "healthy" labido, a.k.a., from what i've read all you care about is sex (or that's how you come off). i'll bet that somewhere down the line you made her feel like she's giving it up to easily or you don't appreciate her as a person. after sex do you just roll over and pass out? do you immediately take her home or make other plans? it's probably something in your body language that ticked her off.
the solution: don't mention sex until she does. this may take a few weeks, but stop throwing yourself at her and she'll miss the attention. play your cards right and she'll be on her knees (no pun intended).
ok, it was intended
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I remedied this situation for myself this winter. We went from every time we could get our hands on eachother to slowing down over the course of two years to once a month. Needless to say this was unacceptable. I told her that it was unacceptable on 3 different occasions. We talked about it and each time it was "going to get better." After going May-January like this I slept with another girl on about 6 separate occasions while away for training in January. (we had had the maybe we should be distant talk, and it was okay I'm not and adulterer)
She was ****ing crushed. And totally wanted to get it on after she found I was serious.
I don't think I was unfair at all. I told her that this is what's going to happen if we don't have sex more often. I was very open and honest.
So now I'm not attracted to her that deeply anymore after trying to get it to work out. Kind of sad this girl is an AWESOME chick and once she's done with college everyone will be BEGGING for her to be their kids 2nd grade teacher.
In my experience, where there's smoke there's fire, run for your life.
She was ****ing crushed. And totally wanted to get it on after she found I was serious.
I don't think I was unfair at all. I told her that this is what's going to happen if we don't have sex more often. I was very open and honest.
So now I'm not attracted to her that deeply anymore after trying to get it to work out. Kind of sad this girl is an AWESOME chick and once she's done with college everyone will be BEGGING for her to be their kids 2nd grade teacher.
In my experience, where there's smoke there's fire, run for your life.
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Originally Posted by 8kGoodENuff,Sep 20 2006, 07:29 AM
Another thing that I could see being wrong is that sometimes it hurts for her, even to the point (sorry again for detail) where she tells me the next day that she was bleeding?!?!?!? Seriously not trying to be conceited or anything, but she tells me that after a week or so, I'm too much and it hurts her cause of the stretching...
) Sure I know a baby can come outta there and and most girls can handle just about any guy but there are limits. I had a friend that had been a "high class" call girl for a few years. She said that if they were over a certain size she wouldn't do them because of the pain and damage. A couple my wife and I are friends with had to split because it. His girth was just ripping her up. Maybe you are hurting her. If I was banging a chick that was so tight that it would skin my dick every time I'd quit doing her. Hell that would be like doing Scot's wife. She's all shriveled up and tight after they added all those stitches so he could feel something. Sweet of her to do that for him though wasn
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[QUOTE=CG,Sep 25 2006, 09:11 AM] If anybody commented on this I haven't seen it. Haven't any of you chicks had a dick that was too big for you? (I know it wasn't Scot if you did. His wife told me. ) Sure I know a baby can come outta there and and most girls can handle just about any guy but there are limits. I had a friend that had been a "high class" call girl for a few years. She said that if they were over a certain size she wouldn't do them because of the pain and damage. A couple my wife and I are friends with had to split because it. His girth was just ripping her up.
) Sure I know a baby can come outta there and and most girls can handle just about any guy but there are limits. I had a friend that had been a "high class" call girl for a few years. She said that if they were over a certain size she wouldn't do them because of the pain and damage. A couple my wife and I are friends with had to split because it. His girth was just ripping her up.
