Now... let's say that nothing changes... do you guys think that I would be justified in leaving this girl for that reason, even though I wouldn't tell her it's for that reason?

 

If it was anyone else... I would dump her, but this girl is really too much of a sweetheart. I know she likes going at it, so I'm willing to give her time to see if she gets passed this stage.

 

Nice!

 

I agree that there could be any number of other stressors (past or present) that are influencing her sex drive.

What makes you think she's bipolar?

 

This is going to sound harsh but I'd move on with your life. She has issues that you aren't going to be able to help her with.

 

I've thought about many things already and this was one of them. We'll see how things work out and if it continues, it'll suck, but there's no reason I should stay in a situation that makes me question that area of the relationship.

 

okay, I had two boyfriends, the first one I had was like the relationship you have, BuT that was because I wouldnt, or very rarely, reach the big O. I was younger as well.. Some woment take a little longer to sexually mature. The sex thing in the beginning was basically her way of getting you, being her boyfriend, now that she has you she doesnt have to try as hard. Iknow this is a personal question but be honest, is she really having an orgasm every time you have sex. and maybe there is a chance she is faking it??
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.

One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes. Just suggest it to her.

 

rubyrashel and cunit ladies need a b/f? haha

 

This is the one that gets me.. she says she wants to hang in the hot tub, a typically sexy spot, where I've tagged many a chick.

Instead of setting the mood, and saying shall I bring the wine, you hack on her again that you're probably not going to get any.

Of course she is going to say control it. You've turned sex into something like picking a restaurant.

I'm not trying to hack on you, but perhaps ask yourself if you're not doing a decent job of ruining the romance yourself.

Everybodies sex drive fluctuates, and rationalizing why it's happening isn't going to fix it.

If you actually care about her, be ready for action when she's ready. Now if it's a month there's an issue, but droping to a couple times a week, considering you've known her for 6 months, regardless of how short you've actually been dating isn't uncommon.

 

yea but even if he was bugging her about it... sooner or later a NORMAL girl would just give in to her sex drive. instead this broad is turning it into a game just because he's giving her control over the situation... have fun with that, especially after you marry her and she knows for sure that she's calling the shots.

another thing i forgot to bring up: are you sure that she's not getting it from someone else on the side? your situation sounds similar to one that my good friend managed to get himself into. this guy friend of mine is one of the nicest sweetest most devoted to his girlfriend kind of guys you'll ever meet. he was seeing this girl and she'd never have sex with him but he kept catering to her. a couple months later he finds out she's been seeing this other guy the entire time they were dating. she had my friend as her "stable, responsible" boyfriend that she never had sex with and the other boyfriend was this douche bag low life "bad boy" that she was boning the entire time. i'd look into that if i were you...