edit: no idea what the f**k i was talking about
-Chris

 

Belly belly solly you tell you this but if your sex drives, desires, don't match it don't going to work. Be a martyr and stay with her for all the other reasons (personality etc.) but I believe that as the years go on you will become more dissatisfied with the relationship. As a side note, NOTHING IS WORSE than obligatory sex. Might as well be rape. You were smart enough to buy an S2K, now go and do the right thing.

 

 

You're so right about that, which leads to... If I say nothing and something happens, all is well. If I say nothing, and nothing happens, then all is bad. I did make the right choice of buying an S2K and if I'm not satisfied, then I'll just have to make a right choice for me. It will really suck cause I know I will feel like SH*T for doing that to her, but I won't be able to live with this constant wondering... drives me crazy.

 

Are you married? I am betting no. My family life is so busy that my wife and I have 2 set days/night of sex per week with the occasional spontaneous bone. I am currently working full time, running a small side business, and taking 2 graduate classes while working toward an MBA (My wife is a stay-at home mom). I also have a one-year old son who needs plenty of attention . The twice a week thing works good: We call it a pleasure day, because whoseever day it is gets to request WHATEVER they want. So basically we both get one day a week of selfish pleasure and sex twice a week. Its hard to find the energy to have sex everyday, but I'm sure its possible. I also forgot to mention that my son doesnt necessarily like to sleep in his crib all night, so we are fighting with that too. Marriage and kids is a whole different ballgame...

 

Now... that... is amazing... lol.

 

thats life, bro....Before my son was born, I got laid everyday...children change things and they are a handful. Especially when they are young and need constant attention.

 

yes! very well said. If sex is important to you, you wil not be happy in this relationship long term. I've tried this, stay for the sake of the wonderful personality, sorry but the sex thing catches up and gradually wrecks havoc with every other bit of your relationship. Maybe you guys are just better off as friends. Is it possible you just rushed into this, sex was great for a while, but that's all that was. I think you mentioned you were both fresh out of relationships??

 

Maybe we did rush into things or maybe we didn't. I mean it was 4 months of pretty much seeing each other everyday and yes the sex was great the way it was. Wasn't everyday, which is fine, but it was like anywhere from 2 to 4 times a week. Now it just seems like it only happens when she wants go to at it and it's not as much as it used to be. Seems like she's so caught up in the... "we're in a relationship now"... that she doesn't find a need to do it as much cause she's won me over already, or she thinks. She keeps saying... you don't plan on going anywhere and I don't plan on going anywhere, so we'll work it out. But honestly... there shouldn't be anything to work out... it should be like... I can't resist you, let's go right now!!!!

She's fresh out of a relationship... we started hanging out a week after her and her bf broke up... I didn't know that though until a little later. And she tells me how he used to demand it from her or else he would leave, but I'm not doing that. When she says no... no is no for me. I just don't understand why it slowed up as compared to how it was like almost all the time... no reason that I can see other than she showed me a side of her that wasn't real and now she's showing her true colors, which would be messed up. I don't know... I'll see how it goes.

 

Sorry, but regardless of her justifications, it sounds like she's playing mind games.

" She keeps saying... you don't plan on going anywhere and I don't plan on going anywhere"
If I was in your position and had that said to me, I would have been so pissed off. That just shows how much you're really worth to her. The chase is over, fun is done, now she thinks she has you all secure and to herself just because you're "official". That is such a giant stinkin load of bull shit! Exactly how does being "official" (and pardon, exactly wtf does that mean) make your relationship any different on a day to day basis?

I think you came across some one very insecure and with issues, who used sex to get you to commit so that she doesn't have to feel all alone cos her bf dumped her.

Wish her best of luck, stay friends with her if you want to, but for your own sake, move on. You don't want to be in a relationship with some one who has this much consideration for you.