Concerned about intimacy with the GF
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Originally Posted by rubyrashel,Sep 19 2006, 06:24 PM
okay, I had two boyfriends, the first one I had was like the relationship you have, BuT that was because I wouldnt, or very rarely, reach the big O. I was younger as well.. Some woment take a little longer to sexually mature. The sex thing in the beginning was basically her way of getting you, being her boyfriend, now that she has you she doesnt have to try as hard. Iknow this is a personal question but be honest, is she really having an orgasm every time you have sex. and maybe there is a chance she is faking it??
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes. Just suggest it to her.
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes. Just suggest it to her.
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[QUOTE=rubyrashel,Sep 19 2006, 06:24 PM] okay, I had two boyfriends, the first one I had was like the relationship you have, BuT that was because I wouldnt, or very rarely, reach the big O. I was younger as well.. Some woment take a little longer to sexually mature. The sex thing in the beginning was basically her way of getting you, being her boyfriend, now that she has you she doesnt have to try as hard. Iknow this is a personal question but be honest, is she really having an orgasm every time you have sex. and maybe there is a chance she is faking it??
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes.
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes.
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Originally Posted by exceltoexcel,Sep 19 2006, 08:41 PM
Didn't I just say that? 
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I didn't read the posts, only the original. To me it sounds like what you are seeing now is really what you will get, and even less as time goes on. I don't know how old you and her are, but this sounds very familiar. Girl knows guy wants/loves sex, really likes the guy and wants him in her life... starts out like a nympho and then slowly gets to what it's really going to be (as in being herself) or worse. I could be wrong, but I'd go with the what you see if what you get and will get or less. 4 months is really not a long time to for it to just die down like that unless she has stress or whatnot going on in her life. GL.
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Originally Posted by rubyrashel,Sep 19 2006, 02:24 PM
okay, I had two boyfriends, the first one I had was like the relationship you have, BuT that was because I wouldnt, or very rarely, reach the big O. I was younger as well.. Some woment take a little longer to sexually mature. The sex thing in the beginning was basically her way of getting you, being her boyfriend, now that she has you she doesnt have to try as hard. Iknow this is a personal question but be honest, is she really having an orgasm every time you have sex. and maybe there is a chance she is faking it??
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes. Just suggest it to her.
now the second boyfriend I had, I was older, the sex was great. He was basically the only guy that made me reach the big O. I had sex all the time. At night, first thing in the morning, everytime we took a shower. even in kinky places. Sometimes I wouldnt be in the mood, but that took about five minutes of teasing to get me out of.
One thing you can try, is waxing her kitty. I know its weird but there are little things a girl can do that you can suggest that will make her feel more sexual. Like the waxed kitty or wearing lingerie under your normal clothes. Just suggest it to her.
I've tried casually "waxing her kitty", but when I do, she either says it tickles or she casually turns into a postion that I can't do anything anymore.
This is seriously turning into a hairy situation... no pun intended... lol.
The more and more this progresses, the more and more I think it was all an act in the beginning to just win me over.
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Originally Posted by Mindcore,Sep 19 2006, 03:43 PM
This is the one that gets me.. she says she wants to hang in the hot tub, a typically sexy spot, where I've tagged many a chick.
Instead of setting the mood, and saying shall I bring the wine, you hack on her again that you're probably not going to get any.
Of course she is going to say control it. You've turned sex into something like picking a restaurant.
I'm not trying to hack on you, but perhaps ask yourself if you're not doing a decent job of ruining the romance yourself.
Everybodies sex drive fluctuates, and rationalizing why it's happening isn't going to fix it.
If you actually care about her, be ready for action when she's ready. Now if it's a month there's an issue, but droping to a couple times a week, considering you've known her for 6 months, regardless of how short you've actually been dating isn't uncommon.
Instead of setting the mood, and saying shall I bring the wine, you hack on her again that you're probably not going to get any.
Of course she is going to say control it. You've turned sex into something like picking a restaurant.
I'm not trying to hack on you, but perhaps ask yourself if you're not doing a decent job of ruining the romance yourself.
Everybodies sex drive fluctuates, and rationalizing why it's happening isn't going to fix it.
If you actually care about her, be ready for action when she's ready. Now if it's a month there's an issue, but droping to a couple times a week, considering you've known her for 6 months, regardless of how short you've actually been dating isn't uncommon.
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Originally Posted by 8kGoodENuff,Sep 19 2006, 12:45 PM
Ok... so I'm at work emailing my GF back and forth and she asked me to come in the Jacuzzi with her tonight and I said that it wasn't a good idea that we do that cause I'm gonna go crazy seeing her in a bikini right... lol. So she goes... you just need to control it... that made me annoyed.
I wrote back and told her that I shouldn't need to control it all. If I feel that way about her... it's kind of hard to turn the switch off you know... especially since we know her dad won't be home until like midnight.
I wrote back and told her that I shouldn't need to control it all. If I feel that way about her... it's kind of hard to turn the switch off you know... especially since we know her dad won't be home until like midnight.