I've thought about that as well cause I've noticed that all her prior "hook ups" have been like the bad-a$$ image kind of guys, but her lifestyle was way different than it is now. She was involved in things that she shouldn't have been and she hung out with a lot of low-lifes, but she says she's changed. I have known her now for like 6 years, since High School, but I would see her once in a blue moon, not even, more like twice a year, cause I had a GF at the time and she had a BF at the time and we don't have the same friends. But we randomly ran into each other again in May and it sparked... so here we are.

Back on point... she is good friends with this one guy that I'm not so happy about that she became involved with in the beginning of the year, where they never became commited but would go at it a few times. The fact that she still talks to him makes me wonder if this is the case, but I don't see how it could happen cause we're pretty much always with each other. Only time I could see it happen is when I'm at the gym or when I drop her off at her house at the end of the night, when she "supposedly" goes to bed and sleep.

I'm not going to jump to conclusions that she cheats on me, but it's in the back of my mind. And like I said... if it continues, ties will be cut.

 

She's told me she's working on it and told me to be patient... so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and hang on for another month or so. If I don't see things resume to what it was, then, sad to say, I'll have to cut her loose like you said.

 

[QUOTE=MDXLuvr,Sep 19 2006, 01:10 PM] p.s.

 

I'm a guy, but I'll chime in anyway. Assuming she is telling the truth....when she says she is self-conscious, she is saying that she feels uncomfortable with you. In the beginning of a relationship that is normal, especially if she had some confidence issues before you met. If you thought that someone was constantly checking out your flaws, I am sure you would lose the sex drive as well. My advice: do not harp on having sex, find something that you still both find equally arousing (call me a fag, but a good conversation and a tongue in my ear still goes a long way), and maybe point out to her somethings about yourself that you are self-conscious about. She'll see that she is not the only one with a "problem" and it'll be a huge turn on for her because it'll show that you are comfortable with her. I just went through the same beginning steps with my girl and everything is so much better since we developed our comfort levels with each other.

Good luck

 

I would probably do the same...whatever you do, don't let her guilt you into thinking that a normal/healthy sex drive is a bad thing. Women have no idea how men are wired, sex is the gasoline that propels us.

 

It's the beginning of an "official" relationship, but we've been seeing each other for like 4 months now and it was great in the beginning. I don't see what the problem is now at all.

 

The next month is seriously going to be hard... lol. Right now I'm starting to think about what C-Unit said before that maybe she has someone on the side. That would be messed up big time.

I seriously won't let her make me think that having a good sex drive is a bad thing... I know it's a good thing and that's one of the major reasons relationships hold on for so long. I can see when you're like 50 or 60 and it slows up... but me 23 and her 21????????? NO ####ING WAY!!!!

 

have you tried to PUT IT IN HER BUTT?

 

 

he mentions how he really wants to go out with C Unit, and then says "DUMP THE BITCH" (to the OP) in the same post; gotta love it.
-Chris