Its just sooo weird because one day...she will bitch and say that she hates me , that i act like a asshole ( which ever since we broke up i do) and all that crap...and next day she calls apologizing ..that she didnt mean the stuff she said.

I thing i am doing wrong is that i still have sex with her 1-3 times a week...and i have to force myself to stop. She is a cheater because she dates the other guy now but always comes back to me

 

Listen, you are young and this is not the last time you will be hurt or hurt somebody - I am 38 and have had my share of heartaches and even done the hurting, take this as a lesson and move on - rekindle some of the friendships that went to the side since you have been with her and make new friends. I advise you to go cold turkey on this girl if you have the strength to do so, you will be a better man by doing so, and for God's sake don't even think about stalking her or driving by her house to see who's car is there - it only hurts you and don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that you even care!
Suck it up and get on with your new life because there is some great booty out there but it won't find you if you are focusing your energy on the old girl !
Nick

 

I would seek professional advice on this situation from an expert. However I am unable to offer a referral at this time as I have misplaced O.J. and Robert Blakes home telephone numbers.

 

I have 2 friends, both of which thought they were going to marry the girl (as did everyone around) and both girls cheated on them.

Friend 1: Proposed to her, had about a month of engagment when she told him, broke, and I mean BROKE his heart, and he cut it off. Had to in my opinion but more importantly in his opinion. Has he gotten over her, well not fully if you ask me, but it has been a year or 2 and he has moved on....

Friend 2: Lived with girl, dated for 5 years or more, and everyone loved her, but she cheated, told him, and he broke it off/ kicked her out. Has he moved on, yes, deffintely, but there is some days/nights, he still brings her up in coversation.

My thought, It sucks breaking up, and especially under such circumstances, Friend 2 is my best friend in the world, and while he is over her I know its still tough on him.

Friend 1, I dont see as often as I should, but I love him to death and while I know the girl better than him, I have to know the new guy which really sucks, since its the guy she cheated with.

Time is the only thing that will heal, that and strip clubs, I swear to god, they get you all fired up for women, not the women of the past but the women of the future.

I wish I could offer more advice but as my 2 friends have proven, It only gets easier.

 

"Sorrow comes to us all. Perfect relief is not possible, except with time. You can not now realize that you will ever feel better...and yet...you are sure to be happy again." - Abraham Lincoln.

I know it's like holding back the tides with a dinner plate, but try to break off any contact with her short of just being cordial. The sooner you start, the quicker it will all go away.

Sorry man. You're not alone by a damn sight, believe me.

Go for a drive. Always makes me feel better.

 

I feel qualified to offer you some advice,

Years ago my then fiance' (together for 3 years) left me after I was involved in a rather serious accident. What a feeling to wake up in ICU, and have her tell me that extent of my injurys were too much for her to handle AND SHE was leaving me. I laid in the hospital for 28 days suffering from blunt trauma injuries and emotional heartbreak.

I can tell you that it hurts like hell, and you'll never get the time back that you have invested in the relationship. But listen to this one important point: Your relationship with her as you know it is over.

In my case, when I tell that story everyone says something like "it was never meant to be" or "damn good thing you found out about her character flaws now". That's all true, but at the time, it sure hurt like hell. Six months after my accident, she appeared and told me she was lonely. It was actually hard for me to tell her get a friggin' puppy, but it was the right thing to do for my emotional well being.

Fast forward to today, and I can tell you for sure that the sting of emotional disappointment fades, and I don't even think about her until I hear a story like yours. My advice is this; Your relationship is over with her, so don't prolong your agony. If you must, get the obligitory grudge fcuk over with, and move on with your life.

Your character is defined by those with whom you surround yourself. Do you really want an intimate relationship with a lying cheating bitch? In the long run, you know it's the right thing to do.

Good Luck

 

Thank You for the advice everyone. It sure does hurt like hell, but i cant sit home and think about all that crap. I called my friends up and we are going to the auto show in an hour..so it should be fun.

 

Or, get your guys and you to a club and freak nasty wit some ladies.

 

Welcome and sorry buddy,

It seems to me like she is still tagging you on as a confidence booster for herself and no offence but you're probably just there for her to fall back on if things dont work. I don't want to rehash on things but keep in mind that alcohol is a depressant and if you use it innappropriately it wont help you at all. By that I mean dont sit at home with a bottle of Jack drinking away your problems, not only is it a cliche, its a poor thought out one. Go out and have a few drinks with some friends and meet new people, the best thing you could do is to show her that you are over it and can stand proud again. Be modest about it though, bragging and showing off will be very transparent and only boost her further, just let her find out about it naturally and your life will move on past her.

As for the guy.... if he intentionally played in on your girl check out the revenge thread that went down a week or two ago that was priceless info

Good luck and be strong mate

 

You need Dr. Phil j/k

Good luck and hang in there!