Now things seem to gotten worse... I tried to talk to her tonight but I just couldn't get it out... so she said to call her back whenever I could tell her whatever it was. I was going to be like "sometimes it feels like you don't care about me blah blah blah and I understand because we are about to go to college yak yak yak" but I just froze on the phone... I dunno... should I even bother calling her later on?

 

Dude, use this experience to as they say Cut your Teeth..

the worst thing that could happen ain't that bad..might as well go for it

 

Hey Plastic... your #1 kinda hit on something I experienced recently -- I'll describe it and maybe you'll relate to it, or maybe not. I dated a girl that basically is into the whole casual dating thing as of 6 months ago (due to a bad breakup or something), but she kept throwing me subtle curves/hints that she was taking exception to me and that there was emotional attachment involved. However, the mind games went on, and I learned something very important about myself: I want a girl that isn't afraid to speak her mind when it comes to emotions, and I want a girl that is a romantic at heart. Despite us having so many things in common, the really important things just weren't there.

If you're still trying to make up your mind (even though you said you decided to be a college pimp after all), I'd say get a really in-depth conversation started and see if you guys can get to the bottom of it. Don't be afraid to ask and answer really tough questions. Just be dead honest about everything. (But of course, be gentle if you think honesty will hurt her.) And eventually you'll find out one way or the other that she is or isn't right for you (at this time in your life).

And just cause Mindcore had 4 years of free sex doesn't mean everyone does. I didn't. Unless you hang out with a group of people that truly are detached from their emotions, then as far as I'm concerned that's just a myth, and a hollow one at that. I do agree with Traynspotting, though, that after you graduate, things are really different... It took me some time to build up a social life after college that enabled me to meet new people, but it can be done.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by SteveUCI
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If you're still trying to make up your mind (even though you said you decided to be a college pimp after all), I'd say get a really in-depth conversation started and see if you guys can get to the bottom of it.

 

1. play it cool with her, be her friend, things will progress naturally until you go to school.

2. ask her if she wants to borrow it. Maybe mine is really cool compared to other moms, but as long as I don't go into details about pron I deal with at work then she's cool, just proud that I'm doing well at my job.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by The Unabageler
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Well, it looks like the whole "PRON" thing is out in the open now. I wouldn't sweat it. Everyone looks at that stuff.

 

I once "dated" a girl that was adamant about the fact that we were not in a "relationship". I eventually decided I didn't like our "mutual interactions" (note: did not use the word "relationship"). I though about how I should call it off with her. Then I realized I didn't need to break up with her - we didn't have a "relationship". So, I just stopped calling her. I would normally call this rude, but she had defined the parameters of the relationship. It was also a pride thing for me - breaking up with a girl that had told me we weren't in a "relationship" sounded pathetic. It souds like you're in a similar sitch. Normally it's rude, but in this case . . . just stop calling her. Games are for computers - not relationships.

As for the porn situation, the next time you get crap from the family about it try asking, "So, I'm the only person in this room who's looked at porn?" If they flinch - game over.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by BDMonk
[B]As for the porn situation, the next time you get crap from the family about it try asking, "So, I'm the only person in this room who's looked at porn?"