New relationship and old female friends
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From: Parsippany
[QUOTE]Originally posted by jmc1971
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Hmmm...how many female friends do you confide in about relationship details? (Not counting the 1000's here!) JMHO, but I'd prolly stay the hell away from YOU were I the female in question. It sounds like too many cooks in the kitchen!
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Hmmm...how many female friends do you confide in about relationship details? (Not counting the 1000's here!) JMHO, but I'd prolly stay the hell away from YOU were I the female in question. It sounds like too many cooks in the kitchen!
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Hi DJ
Glad it's working out. Sounds as if it's a win-win; your gf knows you respect her in that won't be talking about private stuff that only involves the two of you, and you and you friend can amintain your long relationship
I too have always had close female friends- its is somehow easier to be have a certain type of friendship with a girl than a guy. I have a couple of good guy friends that I've known for many years, and I don't know squat about their inner life...
You might still want to get the two of them together in a social setting so that your gf can see the nature of your friendship.
Glad it's working out. Sounds as if it's a win-win; your gf knows you respect her in that won't be talking about private stuff that only involves the two of you, and you and you friend can amintain your long relationship
I too have always had close female friends- its is somehow easier to be have a certain type of friendship with a girl than a guy. I have a couple of good guy friends that I've known for many years, and I don't know squat about their inner life...
You might still want to get the two of them together in a social setting so that your gf can see the nature of your friendship.
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good things worked out.
did your friend not think it was completely inappropriate to talk about gynecological with you (IN FRONT OF YOUR GF)! maybe things are different down here, but if it was me, I would be PISSED if my BF's friend talked to him about that.
Just wondering,
did you agree to not talk about it completely, or just in front of your girl? was your friend cool with that?
again im glad things worked out. life can be tough.
rashel
did your friend not think it was completely inappropriate to talk about gynecological with you (IN FRONT OF YOUR GF)! maybe things are different down here, but if it was me, I would be PISSED if my BF's friend talked to him about that.
Just wondering,
did you agree to not talk about it completely, or just in front of your girl? was your friend cool with that?
again im glad things worked out. life can be tough.
rashel
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by rubyrashel
[B]good things worked out.
did your friend not think it was completely inappropriate to talk about gynecological with you (IN FRONT OF YOUR GF)! maybe things are different down here, but if it was me, I would be PISSED if my BF's friend talked to him about that.
[B]good things worked out.
did your friend not think it was completely inappropriate to talk about gynecological with you (IN FRONT OF YOUR GF)! maybe things are different down here, but if it was me, I would be PISSED if my BF's friend talked to him about that.
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the original question should be a very real situation for many people. i like what everyone came up w/.
now i have a Q. i have many guy friends. err, most of my friends are guys. my boyfriend (i'm a girl) trusts me, or says he does, and hasn't given me a reason to believe that he *doesn't* trust me. and i return that respect by not giving him any reason to doubt me. however, recently i was thinking....what if he had all these female friends and spent time going out w/ them.....? i don't really know how i'd feel, which makes me think that my boyfriend in fact, *is* slightly worried. even if thoughts of worrying DID ever cross his mind, he won't admit it because he's a humble and sweet guy. the question is, do you guys think i should NOT hang out w/ so many guys anymore, esp. since if the tables were turned, i might be worried?
now i have a Q. i have many guy friends. err, most of my friends are guys. my boyfriend (i'm a girl) trusts me, or says he does, and hasn't given me a reason to believe that he *doesn't* trust me. and i return that respect by not giving him any reason to doubt me. however, recently i was thinking....what if he had all these female friends and spent time going out w/ them.....? i don't really know how i'd feel, which makes me think that my boyfriend in fact, *is* slightly worried. even if thoughts of worrying DID ever cross his mind, he won't admit it because he's a humble and sweet guy. the question is, do you guys think i should NOT hang out w/ so many guys anymore, esp. since if the tables were turned, i might be worried?
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meZoom: I'll fall back on the "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" phrase. In short, if him doing the thing you're doing makes you think you'd not be happy, you probably shouldn't do it to him either.
I think you answered your own question.
I think you answered your own question.
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meZoom!,
I'd say you should hang out with whatever friends you want. It's your life, not your boyfriend's.
The fact that you'd worry about him going out with female friends doesn't mean that he feels the same way about you and your male friends. People are different and feel differently toward various situations, so it's a stretch to say that he feels a certain way just because you do.
If your boyfriend is worried about you hanging out with so many male friends, then it's his responsibility to say so. If he doesn't mention it, then I don't see any reason to worry.
The real question is, do *you* think you should stop hanging out with so many guys? It's an entirely personal decision. If you personally feel like you ought to sacrifice your relationships with your male friends for the sake of your boyfriend, then hey, go ahead and do it. If it were me, though, I wouldn't. It's my life and my business, and until I explicitly give my significant other reason for concern (i.e.
up), they've got no right to tell me shit.
I'd say you should hang out with whatever friends you want. It's your life, not your boyfriend's.
The fact that you'd worry about him going out with female friends doesn't mean that he feels the same way about you and your male friends. People are different and feel differently toward various situations, so it's a stretch to say that he feels a certain way just because you do.
If your boyfriend is worried about you hanging out with so many male friends, then it's his responsibility to say so. If he doesn't mention it, then I don't see any reason to worry.
The real question is, do *you* think you should stop hanging out with so many guys? It's an entirely personal decision. If you personally feel like you ought to sacrifice your relationships with your male friends for the sake of your boyfriend, then hey, go ahead and do it. If it were me, though, I wouldn't. It's my life and my business, and until I explicitly give my significant other reason for concern (i.e.
up), they've got no right to tell me shit.