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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Aug 28 2008, 09:12 AM
Crazy in the head = crazy in the bed
Don't even try to have a "relationship" with the nutjobs. I know, easier said than done (as they only get crazy after an arbitrary point). . .
Raj is 99% on about this; there's a thrill factor. Once you can detach yourself from that, you're golden.
We are often attracted to people that have what we perceive to be a need in our life. Life too boring? You date the chaotic chicks. Feeling undersexed? You date absolute nymphos. Need a mommy figure? You date one. The girl needs a daddy figure? They go for the stable guys (but then gets bored because you're not the jerk that shows up on holidays - you're behaving like the boring schlub that's now married to mom).
If you really want a lasting relationship, find your female match. The two of you should have similar philosophies, goals, and wants. . . which often happens because you grow up in similar situations.
Now, time for me to dig into you. . .
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WHAT THE F_CK YOU THINKIN' having a relationship before you're 26? Serious girlfriend? Where the f_ck are your balls? Pump 'em and dump 'em. You didn't know how things were going to go until about. . . now, so why were you trying to complicate your life with adding a long-term relationship? You don't watch Oprah, so why are you trying to buy into the The Gynocracy's belief that you need a long-term money-sucking, dream-killing, succubus? Where are you dreams? Where are your wants? They're not with some cute #$@& running around in Daddy's car clutching her Prada purse. She's looking for a meal ticket and somebody that will buy her house. You don't need that.
What you need is down at an upscale restaurant bar, sucking down her third Cosmo (on her dime), and waiting for a smile. . . just for an evening. . . then tomorrow, you're back to working for you.
Go get 'em!!!!!
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Seriously though, if you want something lasting, chances are good they're not too far out of your purview. You're a guy; time is on your side. It's a marathon, not a horse race.
Don't even try to have a "relationship" with the nutjobs. I know, easier said than done (as they only get crazy after an arbitrary point). . .
Raj is 99% on about this; there's a thrill factor. Once you can detach yourself from that, you're golden.
We are often attracted to people that have what we perceive to be a need in our life. Life too boring? You date the chaotic chicks. Feeling undersexed? You date absolute nymphos. Need a mommy figure? You date one. The girl needs a daddy figure? They go for the stable guys (but then gets bored because you're not the jerk that shows up on holidays - you're behaving like the boring schlub that's now married to mom).
If you really want a lasting relationship, find your female match. The two of you should have similar philosophies, goals, and wants. . . which often happens because you grow up in similar situations.
Now, time for me to dig into you. . .
<rant>
WHAT THE F_CK YOU THINKIN' having a relationship before you're 26? Serious girlfriend? Where the f_ck are your balls? Pump 'em and dump 'em. You didn't know how things were going to go until about. . . now, so why were you trying to complicate your life with adding a long-term relationship? You don't watch Oprah, so why are you trying to buy into the The Gynocracy's belief that you need a long-term money-sucking, dream-killing, succubus? Where are you dreams? Where are your wants? They're not with some cute #$@& running around in Daddy's car clutching her Prada purse. She's looking for a meal ticket and somebody that will buy her house. You don't need that.
What you need is down at an upscale restaurant bar, sucking down her third Cosmo (on her dime), and waiting for a smile. . . just for an evening. . . then tomorrow, you're back to working for you.
Go get 'em!!!!!
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Seriously though, if you want something lasting, chances are good they're not too far out of your purview. You're a guy; time is on your side. It's a marathon, not a horse race.
I'm gonna go with the Wounded Duck Sydrome as well. I have a slight case of it myself. I always end up with the emotionally needy chicks even though I know they'll end up annoying me in the long run. Something about having someone look to you for support and having them cling to you is nice sometimes. The downside though is that I now think every woman on the planet is a nutjob
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Aug 28 2008, 11:12 AM
Crazy in the head = crazy in the bed
Crazy women sure make life entertaining. It makes for a fun roller coaster ride but then it usually comes to an abrupt halt. Just remember its fun for a short time but you wouldn't wanto to ride the coaster or her forever.
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well i stumbled upon this and il igve my insight
relationship success is not tied to personal success your degree your good paying job and your nice car all do nothing for a relationship so there was no reason to bring them up for any reason other then self gratification
most people when looking for a partner want someone thats going to intrigue them and cause them to have more fun then normal when they are with that person
so going on that basis no offense but your life seems pretty boring so why would you be interested in someone who has a similar life style when they most likely will be boring so you do what most people would do look for someone fun to spice things up in your boring 9-5 life style this is whats causing you to go fro girls that are unstable and have more mental issues
how to fix it:
stop being boring break your routine from time to time go new places meet new people and then you will not only open your self up to a larger market of women but you also wont be subconsciously looking for someone to make your life interesting which will draw you to more normal down to earth yet still fun girls
cliffs: stop being boring and you'll stop seeking out bat shit crazy girls
relationship success is not tied to personal success your degree your good paying job and your nice car all do nothing for a relationship so there was no reason to bring them up for any reason other then self gratification
most people when looking for a partner want someone thats going to intrigue them and cause them to have more fun then normal when they are with that person
so going on that basis no offense but your life seems pretty boring so why would you be interested in someone who has a similar life style when they most likely will be boring so you do what most people would do look for someone fun to spice things up in your boring 9-5 life style this is whats causing you to go fro girls that are unstable and have more mental issues
how to fix it:
stop being boring break your routine from time to time go new places meet new people and then you will not only open your self up to a larger market of women but you also wont be subconsciously looking for someone to make your life interesting which will draw you to more normal down to earth yet still fun girls
cliffs: stop being boring and you'll stop seeking out bat shit crazy girls
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Originally Posted by 03rsxnj,Aug 28 2008, 02:02 PM
well i stumbled upon this and il igve my insight
relationship success is not tied to personal success your degree your good paying job and your nice car all do nothing for a relationship so there was no reason to bring them up for any reason other then self gratification
most people when looking for a partner want someone thats going to intrigue them and cause them to have more fun then normal when they are with that person
so going on that basis no offense but your life seems pretty boring so why would you be interested in someone who has a similar life style when they most likely will be boring so you do what most people would do look for someone fun to spice things up in your boring 9-5 life style this is whats causing you to go fro girls that are unstable and have more mental issues
how to fix it:
stop being boring break your routine from time to time go new places meet new people and then you will not only open your self up to a larger market of women but you also wont be subconsciously looking for someone to make your life interesting which will draw you to more normal down to earth yet still fun girls
cliffs: stop being boring and you'll stop seeking out bat shit crazy girls
relationship success is not tied to personal success your degree your good paying job and your nice car all do nothing for a relationship so there was no reason to bring them up for any reason other then self gratification
most people when looking for a partner want someone thats going to intrigue them and cause them to have more fun then normal when they are with that person
so going on that basis no offense but your life seems pretty boring so why would you be interested in someone who has a similar life style when they most likely will be boring so you do what most people would do look for someone fun to spice things up in your boring 9-5 life style this is whats causing you to go fro girls that are unstable and have more mental issues
how to fix it:
stop being boring break your routine from time to time go new places meet new people and then you will not only open your self up to a larger market of women but you also wont be subconsciously looking for someone to make your life interesting which will draw you to more normal down to earth yet still fun girls
cliffs: stop being boring and you'll stop seeking out bat shit crazy girls
The thing is though, I don't frequent dumpy bars in search of Springer chicks. I do work a 9-5, yes, but just because I fell for a woman with problems doesn't mean I desire some kind of lacking excitement.
I agree with the previous posters about the desire to be needed, as that explanation fits better with my personality.
Also, my life is far from boring. I travel often, socialize with new people everyday, and am the first to experience new things. As far as the self-gratification comment, I was merely giving a background of myself and how much my life differed from my ex, hence leading to the question as to why have I been emotionally involved with women that have nothing in common with me, other than multiple Os
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[QUOTE=s2000raj,Aug 28 2008, 08:00 AM]Easy, you like most young guys are attracted to different and especially disorder because it's exciting to you given your whitewashed boring life (relatively).
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Originally Posted by s2000raj,Aug 28 2008, 03:12 PM
Also, what kind of chick are you going to find in a place called Feasterville, PA? 
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Originally Posted by SkyRollin,Aug 28 2008, 12:30 PM
lol, Feasterville is only 5 miles outside of Philadelphia. It just sounds like it's in the sticks.