LOL

 

LOL at this too. I didn't take him seriously either. The rest of you guys have good advice and have been helping me with your posts!

 

All jokes aside, s2ki really came through for me with this thread. Thank you for all of the advice. Although I am far from perfect, I try to find the best in people, even if they are beyond repair. Please feel free to keep replying with advice, stories of your own, whatever. It's been insightful reading thus far!

 

I often do the same thing--you always want to find the best in people. I find now I've learned far better to listen to my instinct... chances are you'll feel it off the bat that something isn't right.

I used to be attracted to all the crazies too, but I've since been dating another girl for quite some time now... a girl that is not crazy, and just what I needed for once.

Good luck to you!

 

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Nah, just a few sane women would do nicely. I've met damned few who were well balanced. Wait till you get into the 40's & 50's. Guy's have midlife crisis and we try to relive our youth. Women have midlife regrets and get bitter. Hugs won't change that.

 

I think probably just getting out more often and meeting different people would help. Can't say I know many women like that.

Anyway, to the OP...
Her history is obviously a difficult one. Without needing to know the details, being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse can really screw people up. Sometimes attempting to heal from that is actually scarier than remaining a victim. The fact that her mother didn't believe her also did some major damage in addition to the abuse. Who wouldn't want to be the person who "sticks it out" with someone to help them overcome something this huge? It has the potential to be a great source of pride and personal growth. However, the practicalities of being in a relationship with a survivor are often something entirely different.

 

Sounds like a nice hearty mixture of hero complex and insecurity or lower value level.

A good friend of mine gave me this analogy which made sense, "Why eat off of the foam or paper plates, when there is gold-lined porcelain china begging to be used?"

Pretty much, why do I go after the crazy, insane-type girls knowing that I can get better ones. Its because at my age I still want experience/educational relationships and settling down for the normal, level-minded girl just doesn't seem to be that interesting.

Probably because I'm still a little bit afraid that my relationship that leads to marriage might end up like my parents (a complete disaster) and I want to make sure that I totally am ready before I make a commitment to settle down.

So, if you're like me, than having those sort of things is sorta beneficial, if you're like 35+ years old... You might wanna start building a qualification for the women you meet.