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Originally Posted by shareall,Nov 11 2009, 08:12 PM
I do remember that story. 
It's true that a lot of girls want it all - unfortunately guys are the same.
Be sexy, not slutty...no wait, be slutty.
Brains matter...unless you're slutty.
Wait, no - intelligent conversation is good, unless you're smarter than him.
Look high maintenance...but don't BE high maintenance.
If I didn't feel the Gravol kickin' in, I'd probably be able to come up with more.
It's true that a lot of girls want it all - unfortunately guys are the same.
Be sexy, not slutty...no wait, be slutty.
Brains matter...unless you're slutty.
Wait, no - intelligent conversation is good, unless you're smarter than him.
Look high maintenance...but don't BE high maintenance.
If I didn't feel the Gravol kickin' in, I'd probably be able to come up with more.
At the same time, men realize their chances of finding a girl who isn't bat shit crazy and who is single is roughly in line with a woman's chance of finding a guy who isn't a piece of shit. And in the end guys settle for easy girls with low self esteem and girls settle for guys who beat the shit out of them and generally ruin them, and the sane girls and non-POS guys are left standing around wondering where the **** to look next.
Best dating advice I ever got was from one of my high school teachers* - his first wife was smokin' hot... not even high maintenance, just hot. But she was always the center of attention and her only real value was as a nice piece of ass (i.e. trophy bride). His second wife was marginally attractive, but fairly awesome - good with a bow & arrow, better with a rifle, liked fishing... basically enjoyed what my teacher did. Needless to say, his sound advice was to go for the former while you were in HS/college, avoid knocking them up, then marry the latter when you came to your senses (preferably before she was legally entitled to half your shit).
* There's no way the PC ass faces that run schools would have let him teach if they knew what went on in his class...
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Originally Posted by WestSideBilly,Nov 12 2009, 07:31 PM
I think you're overstating the appeal of slutty (appearing) girls. Other than the guys like what's-his-nut's-friend who just wants to be fornicating with someone at the end of the night, I think most guys ultimately prefer reasonably attractive women who aren't bat shit crazy.
At the same time, men realize their chances of finding a girl who isn't bat shit crazy and who is single is roughly in line with a woman's chance of finding a guy who isn't a piece of shit. And in the end guys settle for easy girls with low self esteem and girls settle for guys who beat the shit out of them and generally ruin them, and the sane girls and non-POS guys are left standing around wondering where the **** to look next.
Best dating advice I ever got was from one of my high school teachers* - his first wife was smokin' hot... not even high maintenance, just hot. But she was always the center of attention and her only real value was as a nice piece of ass (i.e. trophy bride). His second wife was marginally attractive, but fairly awesome - good with a bow & arrow, better with a rifle, liked fishing... basically enjoyed what my teacher did. Needless to say, his sound advice was to go for the former while you were in HS/college, avoid knocking them up, then marry the latter when you came to your senses (preferably before she was legally entitled to half your shit).
* There's no way the PC ass faces that run schools would have let him teach if they knew what went on in his class...
At the same time, men realize their chances of finding a girl who isn't bat shit crazy and who is single is roughly in line with a woman's chance of finding a guy who isn't a piece of shit. And in the end guys settle for easy girls with low self esteem and girls settle for guys who beat the shit out of them and generally ruin them, and the sane girls and non-POS guys are left standing around wondering where the **** to look next.
Best dating advice I ever got was from one of my high school teachers* - his first wife was smokin' hot... not even high maintenance, just hot. But she was always the center of attention and her only real value was as a nice piece of ass (i.e. trophy bride). His second wife was marginally attractive, but fairly awesome - good with a bow & arrow, better with a rifle, liked fishing... basically enjoyed what my teacher did. Needless to say, his sound advice was to go for the former while you were in HS/college, avoid knocking them up, then marry the latter when you came to your senses (preferably before she was legally entitled to half your shit).
* There's no way the PC ass faces that run schools would have let him teach if they knew what went on in his class...
) that guys would prefer mental stability over physical hotness - but it's all about compromise for sure. I think your teacher was pretty much right on the money. 
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I think so too. He had some good one liners...
"If you want to play with something, put your hands in your pockets" (usually after one of us was tinkering with something instead of listening to him)
"Hurt the ones you love" (usually said after we zapped our lab partner with 120 VAC)
"If you want to play with something, put your hands in your pockets" (usually after one of us was tinkering with something instead of listening to him)
"Hurt the ones you love" (usually said after we zapped our lab partner with 120 VAC)
Sounds like a wicked guy. Funniest prof I have this term takes self-deprecation to a whole new level. 
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Originally Posted by shareall,Nov 12 2009, 03:00 PM
That is key I think. The easiest thing to do is walk away (even though of course it's never "easy"). That doesn't mean you should stay together for 40 years just for the sake of staying together, but at the same time, I think there are some predictable, crucial stages in relationships - that's when people meet their biggest challenges and unfortunately many people choose not to rise to the challenge for various reasons.
When you say you will do something...DO IT! If you aren't sure...don't say you are...
I mean this universally...not aimed at you. It's actually something I've struggled with in my own life...
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Originally Posted by brantshali,Nov 13 2009, 01:32 AM
I'm not sure about the staying together for 40 years just for the sake of staying together. I mean...when you commit for life, don't you mean it? Unless someone is abusive or something equally horrible, isn't your word still your word?
When you say you will do something...DO IT! If you aren't sure...don't say you are...
I mean this universally...not aimed at you. It's actually something I've struggled with in my own life...
When you say you will do something...DO IT! If you aren't sure...don't say you are...
I mean this universally...not aimed at you. It's actually something I've struggled with in my own life...
Ultimately everyone struggles with it.