OH, I got it know. You are comparing 2 completely different cultures. ROW - they fight to pay for the bill. American culture - COMPLETE OPPOSITE. Your lucky if the bill is split evently. I can remember just once when a friend happily payed for my bill at the bar.

I remember almost getting into a fight with my greek friend(I'm Indian) over a restaurant bill(and this was in college when we were broke!!). That will never happen with my "typical" WASP friends. This is not meant to be a racist comment. Its just a cultural difference.

 

Doesn't it bother you that a man can behave like that and still look you in the eye? What happened to respect being the highest form of currency?

 

Yep. Some people tend to take full advantage of whatever is available. I know a person that orders a half salad for dinner when they know they're paying for their own bill. When someone else is paying, drinks, appetizer, entree, and dessert are ordered.

 

sounds like a classy guy.

 

ur talking about class? true generosity expects nothing in return.

lemme guess after ur wedding u made a spreadsheet of all ur guests and how much they gave as wedding gifts? then crossed out all the friends that gave you less than the average head cost? then proceeded to feel like ur wedding was cheapened because the guests were only there to party? makes no sense.

 

Generosity doesnt expect anything, but appreciates gratitude, you've got a lot to learn, kid. Also, I didn't have time for a spreadsheet when helping organize a 40K plus wedding. You missed the point awhile ago, these werent strangers or acquaintances at my wife's b-day thing...you'd expect no gratitude from people who dont give a sh1t about you, but not your friends. Put together a better argument, with an non-asinine and applicable analogy and get back to me.

 

If the person is younger and poorer than me (a student or something), I'm glad to pay because people took care of me when I was young, and I like to pay it forward.

I'm an admitted x-cheapo. My wife broke me of it. It also helps that I have some money now and so things aren't tight. I don't have to worry about other bills/etc if I drop a G here or there.

Sure it sucks hangnig out with cheapo's, we had some 'friends' that came to our parties and drained bottles of good booze like it was water. They'd never show up with anything, nor would they have parties themselves or pay for anything. It got old fast.

My new cardinal rule is you are truly enlightened if you can give without expecting anything in return. I am not 100% on that, but I try to live that way as much as possible. I realized this is the best way to be because I see how petty a certain person I know is and I hate her for it. I never want to be that way.

 

Absolutely....my younger brother was in a car accident and cant work so he has no income coming in right now. Every week we go to the winghouse to drink and stare at titties, I pick up the tab every week and I know he appreciates it and he lets me know...he is not an ungrateful person and when he is working and has a steady income he is also a very generous person.

 

repayment, reciprocation, gratitude. which one is it? so, if ur friends gave u nothing at all, but said thank you, you would be fine? i find that real hard to believe, considering u counted out how much u were down.