Maybe she was mad that you kept leaving your tampons laying around the house.

 

My mentality exactly when I broke up with my girl of 2 years. Since breaking up with her, she has been begging me to take her back.
Yesterday, she called me on the phone, crying and pleading that she needed me and couldn't live without me. When I said, "No", she began yelling, "I CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER THAN YOU! I DON'T EVEN WANT YOU! THE ONLY REASON I CALLED WAS BECAUSE I WAS BEING STUPID! NOW I KNOW I AM BETTER OFF WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL ACTUALLY LOVE ME NO MATTER WHAT!"
She hung up and immediately sent me a text message to apologize. She claimed she didn't mean all that and still needs me.

At first, I thought I'd regret breaking up with her, but in the long run, I know I'll feel better about my choice. At this point, I am not sure if I miss her or am really glad the relationship is finally over.

 

Yes, it's true that if they're incompatible he should move on and find the right person, but, what if they were in love and suited for each other, up until she became depressed and chemically imbalanced? It seems like a lot of the people who are pushing for him to cut all ties are ignoring this bit of info.

 

all very true. i guess the important things are

a. were you in love with her up until that point?
b. do you love her enough to try to help her deal with her depression (if that is, in fact, what it is) while in a relationship with her?

if both of these are a yes, then maybe you should reconsider. you have to decide your answer to those questions before wading back in though.

i can tell you from first hand experience, it's not easy dealing with someone who is or is becoming depressed. it takes a lot out of you, and if you're not completely in love with the person, it will not work, period. picture yourself standing up on a stool, and the other person standing below you on the ground. that's how it's going to work; it's a lot easier for them to pull you down than for you to pull them up.

 

Definitely. I'm not suggesting it's going to be an easy road, but... if he does love her, it could be the road none-the-less.

 

Taking away any serious problems with the girl that might need medical help, you should steer clear of her. This is the best thing for YOU. But honestly, her actions sound normal to me.

Avoid her at all costs. It's up to you to decide if you would get back with her if she were to change. If you wouldn't then why cross her path at all right now? It certainly won't help you forget her. If you would, then she needs to think you're A-Ok without her. The best way to do this is keep her in the dark -- you have moved on and you're too busy for her. The only way she will change is if she has incentive: i.e., you're going to go on without her, and she better get her shit right if she wants to tag along. Don't even think about getting in contact for another month.

Go out and keep yourself busy. Hang with friends and family a lot. Meet as many new people as you can. New relationships, in most forms, will help fill the hole from the one you lost. I'm not saying go get a new girl friend.. that would be bad. But I guarantee at least one of your friends has another group of friends you rarely, if ever, hang out with. Now is the time to network.

Find a cute and caring rebound chick. Two weeks out is perfect. You don't do this for the sex.. in fact, you don't even need to hit it, you just need to be close to her and sleep next to her. You do it because those gay little emotions running around in your head don't respond to your brain telling them it's ok, there's other girls out there. This always clears my head.

You're past the drink to forget stage, so don't do that. You're also past the smoke a lot of marijuana stage to get your mind right.. but that doesn't mean you shouldn't.

 

just move on, no point in wasting time in a crappy relationship with some chick that has mental problems/chemical imbalances. most girls are psycho, but that doesn't mean you should be in relationships with them.

 

Women are like parking spots... They're all whores and liars

 

Quote of the Day, right there!!!

 

To answer your questions:
1. Yes, and she's how old?

2. Because she's a chick. Rather than rationally deal with a situation and accept her loss, she needs to have the loss demonstrated to her (usually with someone else's penis. Ideally, mine).

Apparently you're a chick too, because rather than accepting it, you went to chase her down. I've seen Emo guys make smarter moves.

3. Because you were with her for 5 years. We'll get to that horseshit in a moment.

4. How can she? It's easy. She has a vagina. Rather than accepting pain, shes going to go accept cock (once again, ideally mine).


All that said, let's do some math:

According to your profile, you're 22, and you were with her for 5 and a half years. Which means, you met her when you were ~17 years old. STRIKE 1

You rented a house together. Were both your names on the lease? If so, did you even begin to understand that you're fiscally liable if she flaked? Did you really want that? STRIKE 2

You have two dogs with her. Who's getting the dogs now? Happy about that? Common posessions? STRIKE 3

You're out. You're hopeless.

My advice? Sell the Suzuka as penance. Sell the CBR as well. Go buy a Civic, save some money, go to school (if you're not there already), and get your life in order. You lost a battle with women. Get smart, and go win the war. You'll know you won when you testicles finally grow back, and you're getting more ass than a toilet seat.

DO NOT CALL HER EVER AGAIN. If she needs to talk to you, just say, "You made your choice at the club. I'm making my choice right now. Bye."

If you need revenge, go bang her best friend.