This topic is the sh!t! . . .

Bottom line be yourself, don't front. Love is there or it isn't.

Like asking a girl for their number, you feel it or you don't. Just my opinion.

-Bill

 

hey bro,
i read ur post and not any others, but im sure they got good advice too.
my advice is take ur time and im sure she knows whats up w/ u liking her.
i suggest you tell her, but no rush cause the more u guys spend time the easier its gonna get and much better it will be for the future-
jus go with the flow cause you'll know when the time is right when ur not rushing.
marcus

 

Hey Dude. I love those first dates you have with a girl! The anticipation, the excitement of the journey into the unknown, and meeting someone new!!

Judging from a prior post, you are from Miami. Enough said! (I will be living there soon in a few years God willing!!) I bet there are plenty of great restaurants and lounges to go to. Paisano's in South Beach is always a good Italian restaurant. Small, quiet and the food is just as good as NYC. Lounges, you probably know better than I do. Pearl I hear is a nice place. Might be a little too loud though.

If you don't live in Miami, then I feel like a total jackass!! I almost always take a girl out to a nice retaurant in NYC followed by a nice upscale lounge.

I always plan out my first date. Usually I take her out to a nice, romantic but exotic restaurant that I know is excellent. A place where the food is good, decor and cuisine is different where she will be impressed. Make conversation and get to know her, she will also want to get to know you so between the two of you talking about each other and talking about different topics, it should make for an interesting evening. Planning out the date and making up the plans impresses the girl and prepares you for the night of what's to come. Girls like to be surprised and like when the guy plans the whole night. This shows them that you've been thinking about them the whole week. A plus!!

Take her to a nice lounge for a nightcap. Martinis are good because they are strong. Alcohol is a disinhibitor and will relieve any anxiety that the two of you will have of each other. Make sure you don't drink too much. You still need to think clearly and coherently to read her signals. Read her signals as another guy said. You will get a good feel at this point how the date is going.

Try the best you can for only you two to go out. Going out with friends usually (not always) prevents the two of you from being alone and talking to each other since you are easily distracted by your friends, cousins, etc. I like to operate one on one on the first couple of dates.

Using this approach has almost always been a slam dunk for me (97%). Don't worry dude, you will be fine. Matter of fact I going out on a first date this Sunday with a girl I met last weekend. Kind of difficult being a Sunday but again, I will think of something. Lots of luck and let us know how it turns out.

 

^ That's half the best part of not knowing. Expecially that first kiss. At dinner you will either feel it or not. If not, then you wouldnt have embarased yourself. Besides, I'm sure if she's going out one on one, then she likes you or has some interest in you.

 

Lick it BEFORE you stick it.

 

Hell No! ^

Loose lips sink ships... three finger rule.

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAAHAH...thats classic

just b yourself man...this is key!!!!...if u guys have stuff to talk about and the evening goes well then u r in there..just keep going out and have fun together..if u guys hit off and and she turns out to b a cool person..then its all good...dont forget a phone call here and there wont hurt either..let her know that u r really interested....also it would b a good idea to see if she is seeing other people first..lol

remember there are tons of fish in the sea...cant hurt to use the s2k to show her u r a pimp too

 

crash and burn...

Try again, be straight up. If she doesn't feel the same way at least you know how she feels about you, instead of playing that wondering game. I wonder if she... likes me, want me, etc. the way I want her, etc. I think it's easier that way.

When I first met my current gf, I asked her straight up, "So what do you think about dating an Asian guy?" She said "OK". And, now, almost a year later, I'm about to pop the big question.