friend -> girlfriend trouble... please help!
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From: Judo Town, USA
Hoonda-
By now, you should be feeling all of the support and advise we are giving you.
I'm really hoping it's not all in vain. Whether it works out, or not, I think we are all expecting to hear soon that you gave it a try!
Don't worry about getting turned down. Unfortunately, you'd better get used to it. It's just part of being a man, and it happens to all of us.
Some things in life are never easy, no matter how long you prepare. Sometimes, you just have to go for it, even though you don't feel ready.
If you are lucky, things will go your way. That's what makes it all worthwhile.
Come on, bro- we are all behind you!
-Pete
By now, you should be feeling all of the support and advise we are giving you.
I'm really hoping it's not all in vain. Whether it works out, or not, I think we are all expecting to hear soon that you gave it a try!
Don't worry about getting turned down. Unfortunately, you'd better get used to it. It's just part of being a man, and it happens to all of us.
Some things in life are never easy, no matter how long you prepare. Sometimes, you just have to go for it, even though you don't feel ready.
If you are lucky, things will go your way. That's what makes it all worthwhile.
Come on, bro- we are all behind you!
-Pete
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From: State of Confusion
Originally posted by Hoonda
Ah, I see. That's really what I'm doing- overanylizing my options. Thanks for being so supportive Brant.
Ah, I see. That's really what I'm doing- overanylizing my options. Thanks for being so supportive Brant.
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From: soopasoak dat hoe.
basically im saying be yourself.. like brant stated.. sure girls are girls.. but i probably wouldn't be using the same tactics that i use today back when i was 14.. which is why im trying to put myself in your shoes.. of course direct would be great to just get a quick answer... but i think you should at least gauge interest first... whats one more night gonna hurt if you ask her out to go somewhere?
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From: soopasoak dat hoe.
Originally posted by brantshali
What statement's a little harsh?
As far as being direct or sort of skirting around the issue...the less clear you make the question the less clear the answer will likely be...
What statement's a little harsh?
As far as being direct or sort of skirting around the issue...the less clear you make the question the less clear the answer will likely be...
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From: Bowie
Give her a call. You can call from the privacy of your room, so you won't have to worry about you sister showing up at the wrong time. You won't have to wait for the exact right moment and she won't be able to see you sweating! Keep it informal, you really should wait to get to know each other one-on-one before you pledge your undying love for her.
Pick out a movie that you think she would enjoy before you call. Then when you call you can say something like "Hey, Hulk 3 the pirates of the reloaded league of extraordinary nemo, is playing at the mega theater 21 around the corner. Would you like to see it with me Saturday night?"
That way she knows you are interested, she sees that you have a plan and have enough confidence to ask her out. She can say yes, without having to pledge her undying love for you.
Pick a show that gets out early enough to take her to get some ice cream afterwards. The show will give you something to talk about (and hopefully distract you from yourself) to break the ice. If the two of you click, you can talk for a long time over a couple of scoops. Keep it informal, unless she starts staring longingly into you eyes, which means she wants a kiss before the evening is up.
After the first date, you will be surprised how natural it will seem to be alone with her, even if she came over to visit your sister. Asking her out again will be much easier.
Pick out a movie that you think she would enjoy before you call. Then when you call you can say something like "Hey, Hulk 3 the pirates of the reloaded league of extraordinary nemo, is playing at the mega theater 21 around the corner. Would you like to see it with me Saturday night?"
That way she knows you are interested, she sees that you have a plan and have enough confidence to ask her out. She can say yes, without having to pledge her undying love for you.
Pick a show that gets out early enough to take her to get some ice cream afterwards. The show will give you something to talk about (and hopefully distract you from yourself) to break the ice. If the two of you click, you can talk for a long time over a couple of scoops. Keep it informal, unless she starts staring longingly into you eyes, which means she wants a kiss before the evening is up.
After the first date, you will be surprised how natural it will seem to be alone with her, even if she came over to visit your sister. Asking her out again will be much easier.
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From: Madison
Isn't that nervous feeling great....yet suck at the same time?!?!
How comfortable are you with your sister? If you guys are really cool....maybe you can tell her that you like her friend! Maybe she can set you guys up.
Just an idea....good luck. Don't beat yourself up over this if it doesn't work out....especially with all us S2Ki'ers putting pressure on you to MAKE IT WORK!
Just kidding....
How comfortable are you with your sister? If you guys are really cool....maybe you can tell her that you like her friend! Maybe she can set you guys up.
Just an idea....good luck. Don't beat yourself up over this if it doesn't work out....especially with all us S2Ki'ers putting pressure on you to MAKE IT WORK!
Just kidding....
